Ok Nae I'll give it a go.

1 - Dry pailing - Dry pailing is where you don't soak the nappy, like you used to with old style cloth. You just take the nappy off the bub, if its just a wee, then put it in the pail. Thats it. If its a poo, you can get a little squirt, squirt off the poo, dump it in the bucket. I use buckets that I picked up in the baby aisle in Big W - I have 3 buckets though cos I have two in cloth full time.

2 - I read somewhere about stripping the nappies but it doesn't say what that is or how to do it, I think it has something to do with reducing odour? Strip wash is usually done to remove any excess detergent from the nappy because that can mess with the absorbency of the nappy. Usually just a bit of dishwashing detergent and lots of rinses will do this for you. You don't need to do it all the time though.

3 - what sort of laundry detergent - by name preferably I get so confused when I read all the labels, we have a front loader. I use the amolin sensitive one, but I have a top loader, so not sure about a front loader one.
4 - I am a tad concerned about water comsumption because we have only 1 well and I really don't want to wash every 2nd day would prefer every 3rd-4th day (depends on bub though) can you wash with bubs clothes etc? You can wash with bub's clothes. Do a pre-wash or rinse, then throw the clothes in. Personally, I wouldn't leave pee in the nappies for 3/4 days cos the ammonia in the wee might start to wreck your nappies if not rinsed out soon enough.
5 - how many do you have/use they recommend 24 min but given I want to limit washing I will need more so how many? I went through heaps when DD was a newborn - not so many now. She probably gets changed about 7 times a day, same with DS. This is only because they are in a nappy for 12 hours of a night time though. If they needed changing during the night, then it would be more than that. I say 8 a day is a pretty safe number. Then you have to factor in how long they take to dry etc.

6 - Mum and I were discussing the nappies and she suggested when baby wets all you do is removed the liner - I think it would be the whole nappy can someone please clarify? Depends what nappy you are talking about. If you are talking about pockets, then you can just remove the insert and still use the shell with new inserts in them. I just chuck mine in the wash with both wees and poos though - cos I have enough nappies to do this.
7 - any tips and tricks with odour reducing in the bucket, reducing staining etc aside from pre rinsing. Reducing stains - hang them in the sun. That's it. Odour reducing in bucket - I rinse my buckets often and put them out in the sun as well. People use tea tree oil or lavender and stuff like that on breast pads and hang them inside the bucket. I don't need to do that cos I wash so often. Plus I also rinse all my wee nappies in the shower with me of a night time, so even though I wash every 2nd day, I still rinse them out IYKWIM?
Is that enough? lol