Yup, I feel exactly the same way. My parents visited at the peak of her symptoms before we got her diagnosed and my mum told my I was "spoiling " her and that she needed to just cry and not be picked up all the time. It saddens me.
Also, my parents smoke like chimneys (I made them go outside though) but I truly believe that their second hand smoke made her symptoms worse and that just makes me mad!

Anyway, Missy and little Jack are all good. And their mummies are fabulous too

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