dear juliette-

i completely understand how you feel, my DD was exactly the same and up to about 1 week ago she started sleeping through the night, the saddest part is she did it in her own bed she would normally go down in her bed then wake to come into ours but has been sleeping through in her bed and now she is weaned from Bf she is 17mths old now. back when she was 1 though i was finding it really difficult to lay on my side and feed her all night due to my carpel tunnel the pain was extreme so i wasnt sleeping much and although i dont technically work full time i had 5 other children to look after in the day.i was also finding she wasnt actually feeding but rather just wanting to be attatched for comfort sucks.
you are working a double full time job trying to take care of housework and working..i think you need to have a chore chart or something for your Dh listing the 3 or 5 most important chores to do in the day while you are work. listing the actual thing and making a short list might be better recieved then just saying please clean the house, i know my DH has no idea what a clean house entails.

sorry if this reply didnt help i hope it gets better soon sending you lots of hugs and sleep vibes**