Am I the Only One....

[Boo Boo]

Ryn - it is pretty much on the floor play with her toys. I have also read all the sleep books - Pinky, Dr Sears, Anni Gethin & Beth MacGregor, Elizabeth Pantley, etc and whilst they are all very good, sometimes at 3 pm in the morning you need someone there holding your hand telling you where you are going wrong. We are currently based in Johannesburg and really don't have the support that Australia has in regards to people coming out to your house and helping you through things like this, having said this once we are back in Melbourne in approx 6 months time and if we are still going through the same issues I wouldn't hesitate in having someone come to the house with some gentle advice to help me out.

ETA: Also, just wanted to say, I can't stand crying, really averse to it, this is why I havn't left her to have a whinge to herself and possibly self-settle, the sound drives me insane (I am not good with loud noise/music etc) so maybe I will be doing this when she is 5 years old LOL.

Thanks
Laurin

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

sometimes at 3 pm in the morning you need someone there holding your hand telling you where you are going wrong.

Don't I just know it! 4.30 for us this morning.

But I will tell you this - you're not doing anything wrong. Think about it - if you went from napping at will all your life, being nourished constantly, never being cold or wet, and being up most of the night then were expected to change and not only sleep all night but understand temperature, hunger and have a wet nappy on we wouldn't be too happy. Some people are more changeable than others and get on with this quickly, others resist change. And this is a BIG change to go through after a trauma such as being birthed.

Well, that thought has just really helped me! DS isn't big on change. He likes his routines - but I could tell you that anyway. Just thinking that this is a change from in utero to Outside does help. Well, helps me keep perspective after a cup of coffee when I get up anyway!

There's a big difference, to me anyway, between him humming to go to sleep, mumbling that he wants to sleep and then starting to cry because he's tired. I tend to look at the early whinging like me when I'm tired - I just need a bit of a vent then I can go to sleep. So DS is just having a vent to his mate, Herr Hare, and then he may sleep. If not, I can help him. I do think perspective is the key here - another friend of mine has a son who goes to bed and for the next 30-60 minutes will just babble random words, even at the age of 3. She was upset until she realised that she never goes straight to sleep, but reads and writes a diary for up to an hour and her son is just taking after her. HTH.