Just a perspective from the other side - my son could not go to sleep on his own until over 2 and was a very frequent waker in the first 18 months. But.... now he's a joy to put to bed. Honestly, some days, it's the easiest thing we do all day. It all passes in time. Being there for them now, when they need you, is worth it. It's hard right now - I know! - but right now you are helping them develop the ability to self soothe by building their sense of security and wellbeing.
Being there does not mean mum has to do 100% - that's physically not possible a lot of the time, so it's important to make sure you have several adult helpers and get time to yourself as well.
I'm hoping to be in the same position in a few years time MadB! Right now I know she needs help to get to sleep, and from day one she's been fed, rocked, sung to, whatever she needs. During the day she's so easy to get to sleep - if I'm not available DH will rock her and sing to her or play the seahorse, or take her for a walk in the pram in the back paddock. It's just at night, she needs to feed every single time, no matter how long since last time. We tried just a couple of times to see if she'd go to sleep during the night other ways, but it looks like feeding to sleep is it for now. Not that it's actually feeding, she just holds my nipple in her mouth and is asleep in no time. That's fine, if that's what she needs then that's what we'll do. Like they say, this time will be so short and she won't want to snuggle up to me like that forever
Has it got any better?
DS2 never liked a dummee either. I hate to say it but I still get called into his room most nights. I wake to hear "Mummy I need you" and hes just checking I'll come, making himself feel secure I guess.
Hope you have better luck then me
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