Co-sleeping with child. What happens to partner?

[LuluHB]

Whenever we co-sleep we're all in the bed. There is no way either DH or I would leave the bed. Neither of us sleep well without the other there and while I have to admit that when he gets up to do the early shift with one of the girls and I get a couple of hours of bed to myself (except for the cat) its lovely to sprawl, but a couple of hours is the absolute limit.

[HotI]

Thank you so much for all your replies, and sharing your stories.

Although, you might co-sleep in different ways, i can see that the ways you have developed work for you, and we will find the way that works for us.

I wasn't worried so much about the sex side of it, but similar to LuluHB i just love the staying in the same bed, knowing he is there, and cuddles and touches. I have a shift working partner, like many others (there are heaps of us), and although sometimes it is nice to starfish, we both sleep better when we are both there.

Thanks again,

Kate

[paradise lost]

Kate you might not find this, but i found the first few weeks after DD was born i actually welcomed the fact that XP had left the bed and i was having less cuddles and touches.

That sounds really off i know, and some of it WILL have been down to our relationship being so rocky, but i went from when i was pregnant having my own body i could share when i wanted, to BFing a newborn which was sometimes BFing for 60 our of every 120mins round the clock. I was over-touched. I felt like i NEVER had my own physical space - I just wanted some space when i could have it. Now i know some of it was my relationship because XP acted jealous of DD and demanded physicality (not sex) at inapproriate moments (like no, i do not want to lie and cuddle with you while DD screams next to me and milk for her is jetting out of my breasts!). BUt i'm sure some of it is just because the physical reliance of the baby on one can be overwhelming until one gets used to it (i felt much better by 3 or 4 months when the feeds had settled into a 3-4hour pattern).

You might not find you feel this at ALL, but i thought a heads up, so you don't feel as i did that there must be something wrong with you, might help

Bx

[MrsFabuloso]

I often felt the same as Hoobley too, especially with a clingy toddler as well. Like if one more person touches me or speaks to me I'll explode!!!!