Confused about Sleeping First time Mum

[PumpkinZulu]

I personally think it's a little early to expect her to self settle, it's not really a concept they learn until a lot older. My DD is 6.5 months and is only sometimes settling herself. At the moment, you are her comfort and reassurance The best thing any parent can do IMO is let go of any expectations they have on their babies. Life is so much easier that way

[Lolpigs]

Thanks PZ I think I just needed to hear it, I've been under alot of pressure from family etc to have her behaving a certain way but it all came to a head this morning becuase it just dosent feel right to be doing it.

They also are the ones suggesting CIO.. no thanks.

[~~Snoogans~~]

The best thing any parent can do IMO is let go of any expectations they have on their babies. Life is so much easier that way

Yep, totally in agreement with PZ

[Rowellen]

I agree with PZ. It is important to be there for your baby. But, if you can, give her a chance to settle herself before helping her, at least on some sleeps. I made this mistake with my DS. I found I had to rock him to sleep every sleep until he was over 12 months. I believe this is because we never gave him a chance from an early age to learn that he could do it himself. My DD's 8mths now & she occasionally settles herself. Most times she needs a bit of help from us though, a feed, a cuddle, bum patting, whatever works.