oh Astrid *hugs* its so hard! Matilda really hates sleep, and has always fought us. We still sometimes take an hour to get her to sleep.... I have tried so many different settling technique & everytime I do I give it at least 5-7 nights of consistency where I try the same thing everynight.

I even went to sleep school when Matilda was only 10 weeks to try and get help with settling, and while the techniques used were not control crying they were close enough, and really it worked for a few weeks, only to have to go through the whole thing again when she was 4 months because she was starting to crawl soon after that.

I have found that usually following my heart works best. I read Pinky McKay's book on Parenting by Heart & that helped me gain confidence in what I was doing. DH & I took turns at night getting her to sleep. ATM she sleeps through the night, and one of us puts her to sleep at night with a bottle & cuddle on her bed. We lay down with her and just have a cuddle until she is asleep, this takes around 20 minutes now which is so much more pleasurable than 20 minutes of screaming & crying as it used to be. When she was younger she refused to be held to sleep & it was awful, but now we are finding as she grows up its getting easier.

*hugs* and like Kelly said, come & vent because some of us understand all too well how frustrating & emotional it can be to have a baby that fights sleep.