I think it depends a bit on age. Yasin is 27 months now and has recently started trying it on a bit - he has a funny habit of watching/practising his emotions in the mirror. Its quite cute, almost like he's figuring out' when I feel like this I look like this' IYKWIM. So in the last month or so he's sort of learned to fake a cry when he doesn't want to go to bed. Now we put him down and if he's getting upset we go to him but if its just a tester we let it go. I probably sound mean but he's over 2 now and we know the differance between when he's genuinley in need of a bit of extra comfort before he goes to sleep and when he's just turning it on.

Imran has started to develop full-on seperation anxiety and spends alot of his days clinging to my side like a little monkey. He cries when I put him on the floor and sometimes its unavoidable. Yasin also has needs and if he needs some food and I don't think that I can carry Imran while I prepare food for myself and Yasin safely then I have no choice but to put him down and let him cry for those few minutes. When I only had one baby I never would have done it. I just would have waited until Yasin was ready before doing anything but Yasin can't always wait for Imran to let go of me and I don't think it's fair to always prioritise Imran. I would like to never let Imran cry but sometimes its just unavoidable.