roryrory i don't leave my kids to cry at all when they are this age. i know i am not of the mainstream parenting group and honestly do what works for you, for me even if oscar is crying in my arms for us that is better than without my arms IYKWIM. although in saying that we donot put our babys down really until after 12 months so they are pretty much in arms/sling the whole time or sleeping with us etc. Oscar is still in arms now at 18 months alot but not as much as prior to 12 months. BUT i know this isn't for everyone and is unusual in western society. i find in doing this, though, my kids are very sensitive and calm as toddlers and pre-schoolers, and as 11 & 8 year olds, i have also noticed that oscar does not tantrum as other kids his age. granted this could be temprement/developmental thing as well. i just think that you need to follow your heart and instincts and if it works for you continue if not change it.
i am glad you feel confident in how you parent cos that's half the battle i think.
beckles
Thanks for the votes of confidence girls . Even though I am happy with what we are doing it is nice to get a "thumbs up" so to speak from some like minded ladies. Beckles and Dach, how did you manage settling the younger bub with having older ones at the same time? Did they ever get jealous? (only ask cause we are not actively preventing TTC#2 - IYKWIM!!) I wonder how Flynn will go when he sees a sibling crying and being settled - will he want a cuddle at the same time?!
Just had a big cry session with Flynn now - he was over tired and wouldn't have an afternoon nap (despite a walk in the pram!) and ended up crying his heart out in my arms for about 2 minutes. He refused all settling and it was only when I showed him his refelction in the mirror and told him it was ok, mum was here, that he stopped crying and settled, then dropped off to sleep.
WHY OH WHY do they fight it so much? Cailin, what is it with the "I'm yet to find a child who doesn't whether they co slept/rocked etc or not"?? If someone said to you, here you are, you have a sleep while I do EVERYTHING for you, you'd take them up on the offer, wouldn't you - LOL!!!!
my answer to how did i cope BIG AGE GAPS!!!!! 3 years between the older 2 and 7 between the middle and 3rd. even 3 years wasn't a big enough gap for us looking back but 7 years is perfect!
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. Even though I am happy with what we are doing it is nice to get a "thumbs up" so to speak from some like minded ladies. Beckles and Dach, how did you manage settling the younger bub with having older ones at the same time? Did they ever get jealous? (only ask cause we are not actively preventing TTC#2 - IYKWIM!!) I wonder how Flynn will go when he sees a sibling crying and being settled - will he want a cuddle at the same time?!
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