Clarrie,

First of all, PLEASE LET GO OF ANY GUILT! No matter what you have tried, it sounds to me like you now are reading Bonnie's cues, so don't stress!

I am a hammock user too (have done for all 3 of my babies) so I think you have a golden tool there for self settling.

And the wrapping and cuddling and singing sounds perfect too.......in fact, the way you describe what you are doing now sounds pretty much exactly what I have always done with my babies!

I'm starting to plan a proper going to bed routine (bath, massage, feed, cuddle, singing), but have no idea how to get her in bed by 7pm and manage to fit in dinner!
I have found this a godsend for me and my little ones.......6.00 is TV off, 6.30 bath, 6.45 stories, 7pm final feed, cuddle and whispery singing in a darkened bedroom with Peacebaby CD on, 7.30 bed. It works for us really well, and it is MY sanity too, so that no matter what has gone on in the day, that is the "re-start" buttom for all of us.......

(In terms of dinner, I usually have that all prepped ready to go, so once I finish putting Lexie to bed, DH and I have a glass of wine & a chat as I finish cooking the dinner, and we usually sit down to eat at around 8pm, but that suits us both fine in the week...)

Best of luck, but it sounds like you are really on the right track.........