I spoke to a health professional today who was really helpful.She told me the first sleep in the morning was most important and to work on one sleep at a time.Ruby is 10 weeks and she said at this stage they have real difficulty self settling.If she is quiet put her in her cot/bassinet and let her try self settle.If she doesnt i can hold her and gently pat her bum until she is half asleep and pop her in.She also said using a pram is great too at this age and its not unitl 6 months that they can start to understand on how to self settle.I feel relieved because i dont want to control cry,i made that mistake with my first.Sounds like you are doing the right thing.