So far with Fred we have been using a gentle parenting style to get her to sleep. She either BFs to sleep with me or DH sings her to sleep. However she is sometimes taking ages to go to sleep and then waking frequently during the night. She also only sleeps 30-45 mins during the day and wakes up cranky
So far we have:
played quiet restful music in the room
use either a sleeping bag or thick jumpsuit so she can't kick off her blankets
have a very regular routine of dinner, bath, quiet time then bed
what else can we do? I really don't want to do the control crying thing. She seems to be really clingy with me and has been for ages, so anytime I go away from her (even the other side of the room) she gets upset. Even with DH holding her she gets upset. Is there something we can do to help her with the separation anxiety?
Can't really help you Cat - Blake is similar - BF or a slight bounce/rock thing to sleep at night for the first sleep, after that (3hrly STILL; 4hrs is a bonus) wakes and will really only settle with a BF. So I get where you're coming from. Been meaning to finish sorting out the possibilities from the No-cry Sleep solution by Elizabeth Pantley for night time sleeps (had started to sort it out to do this, was intending to do something during the school holidays but Blake's been sick so haven't wanted to upset him too much). He also used to do the 30-45 min sleep x1 day and that was it. I really didn't like those nights = more wakeups. Eventually he's grown out of the only 30-45 min sleep once a day and is now averaging a 1 - 1 1/2 hour sleep during the day. Now just have to work on the night time sleeps
I ended up taking a drive (10 -20min) and Blake would end up sleeping for over an hour in the car when I got home in the driveway (with me there too). Swimming lessons helped a bit too (did this Saturday mornings) as it tired him out, we had some beautifully long sleeps in the car after that. I think that's helped him settle into the longer day sleeps a bit which has meant slightly longer night sleeps before waking up (we were averaging 2hrly there for a while - not fun while back at school full time especially as Tim can't BF for me at night and I really only have enough bottles of EBM for the next day)
Not sure about ideas with the separation anxiety thing - Blake's always been quite social - handed around to everyone from early on and childcare from about 4mths so haven't really had to deal with that one. But he does love his BF when I get home after school - can't do anything till that's been had
Thank Liz same for us during the night, if she sleeps 5 hours I am so excited! I was hoping someone has a magic wand but that is probably asking too much!
5 hours seems like a dream - I remember when Blake used to do 5 hr, 4hr and 3hr sleeps in one night - that was before the last week of the school year last year - we had 1.5-2hrs of sleep at a time that week and haven't recovered and got back into those nice long (for us) sleeps. Although Blake will surprise us and do a really long one (9hrs one night) and then not repeat it again for quite awhile (4 hours or more is a long sleep for us and it's like WOAH he's slept for ages now... )
really does sound like our two discuss their plans and implement them at the same time! She has been down for two hours now and I will probably crash soon and cross my fingers that she sleeps well tonight
Blake's only been down for about 1/2 hour now. ... am thinking about finishing surfing (okay a little more only ) BB and then heading off to bed and hoping he sleeps til at least 12 and not around 11 tonight. that they both sleep well tonight
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same for us during the night, if she sleeps 5 hours I am so excited! I was hoping someone has a magic wand but that is probably asking too much!
that they both sleep well tonight
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