Help! 12mo only settling in our arms

[leckert]

Blake's only been down for about 1/2 hour now. ... am thinking about finishing surfing (okay a little more only ) BB and then heading off to bed and hoping he sleeps til at least 12 and not around 11 tonight. that they both sleep well tonight

[Ryatha]

for the both of us

ETA - I spoke too soon, she just woke and had a great big feed so to bed for me - GL

[onthefly]

When I wanted to move away from feeding and rocking to sleep, the first intermediate step was laying down together. At first with DS on top of me, then next to me, but cuddling, and just next to me and so on.
Does she sleep with you or seperately?

[leckert]

When I wanted to move away from feeding and rocking to sleep, the first intermediate step was laying down together. At first with DS on top of me, then next to me, but cuddling, and just next to me and so on.
Does she sleep with you or seperately?

Sorry for slightly crashing your thread Cat

for me - at night it's a mix - starts night in cot, I feed him in him in a single bed we've got in DS's room until he's asleep (or I wake up after he's asleep after I've fallen asleep) and then he's back in his cot until the next feed. He comes into our bed after 6am. Blake doesn't like it if I don't feed him and if DH gets up, Blake usually still won't go to sleep without me having to feed him in the end (unless he's awake with wind like he has been the past couple of nights - then it's infants friend & tummy rub and sit up for awhile - usually with DH until Blake falls asleep). If I try laying down with DS = time to climb over mummy and wiggle around so he can't/won't go to sleep (playtime) unless he's really really tired. Blake rarely takes a dummy and refuses to have a bottle of water overnight instead of a BF so that's not working to re-settle for sleep. Gets worked up if offered water and dummy rather than BF so quicker atm to feed to sleep = more sleep for me usually

[onthefly]

Yeah, if nothing else works then go with what's easiest. I can't remember when exactly the lying down worked for us - there definitely were times when DS would just climb all over me. I think maybe I held him and sang, then lay down once he was drowsy. Then after a while would go straight to lying down. And so on. God it's all a blur.
I slept on a mattres on the floor with him most of the time 8-18 months (we had the odd good week when he didn't need me). So gave up on the cot, yeah. And when I night weaned at 14 months he just started asking for food because he was hungry . Sometimes you just can't win.

DS didn't learn to self settle at all till nearly 2 and still needs help most nights (but somtimes sleeps through now at least).

[Ryatha]

Liz - feel free to crash the thread, it should help all of us

marcellus - Fred is still in the cot but I was thinking about moving her into a bed soon. I know when I lie down with her she does sleep well in my arms. So most nights she will stay in her cot all night, unless she has croup and she ends up sleeping in bed with me to help her settle through all the coughing. She even fed lying down next to me last night and we haven't done that for about 6 months. I have been sleeping on the floor next to her cot as she sleeps well with my hand to pinch or with it on her belly.

Tinsel - I might play peek-a-boo with her a bit more and see if that helps. That was a really good idea

Lumpy didn't learn to self settle until she was about 3 but I was hoping Fred would learn a bit earlier.

[Tinsel]

Hi Guys

Amelia is the same. Will only be rocked to sleep or cracks it although she has let me put her in the cot but I have to have my hand on her or holding her hand. She has no idea how to self settle which is why I think she doesn't sleep through the night. I'm on auto-pilot when she wakes in the night so I have no idea how often she wakes or even if I feed her. I honestly can't remember most nights but I do remember waking. I too was hoping for a magic wand once she turned 1 or some kind of miracle that she would understand about sleeping through.

Monique went through her separation anxiety phase earlier than Amelia did. We are just playing lots of peek-a-boo and hiding things and finding them again so she kind of understands that even though she can't see me (or the object), I'm still around. She has a cold and teething at the moment so it is worse than usual.

They have to sleep for us one day and I'm so looking forward to that happening.

I don't have any advice sorry. I have tried a couple of things but nothing is going to help her self settle. She too is clingy with me at the moment. I will check back to see what advice you get.