help! co-sleeping not working that well anymore

[smiles4u]

I remember that my daughter would be restless if she was too warm ... & i would take a piece of bed clothing off to cool her down during the night when she woke us, then she would be fine

[fionas]

I miss co-sleeping too! We didn't do it every night but probably did it every night from about 4am for a couple of months. She just seemed to grow out of it and if we put her in with us now she just tosses and turns, pushes us both to the edge of the bed and/or starts playing with our hair/noses but then immediately settles when we put her back in the cot.

But her cot is in our room so she knows we're still around. If she doesn't like her toddler bed at night, I wonder if you could do a transition stage and move it into your room for a bit then move it out when she's used to sleeping in that at night.

Could be the feeding whatnot too but just thought I'd explain why I think it might be developmental.

[queenbee]

thanks everyone, you've all been great help. i might start a dreamfeed again and see whether that works. going to sleep on a mattress next to DD's toddler bed for a week to get her used to her own room and see whether that helps, this sleeping with us in our bed is just not working anymore. she moves up and hits her head on our bedhead. so tired

will miss my DP

[queenbee]

do you think i am doing the right thing sleeping in her bedroom?

[Astrid]

Sleeping in her bedroom could certainly help, all you can really do is try it and see how it goes.

I really second looking at the custard, check for an colouring called Anatto or 160b. It is a natural colouring but a baddy. I find it really affects my eldest. She can tolerate it occasionally, but not all the time. So you might find if it is in the custard that stopping it will not see an immediate result, it may take some time to get out of her system.

Good luck, I hope things improve for you

[BekZ]

Both my girls were really restless co-sleeping with us from around 4 months old.

One thing that worked for me was consistency. If you choose to go down the toddler bed path, and you want to be with her initially be prepared to trial it for at least a week or 2. Don't to and fro from bed to bed, it just confuses them and they don't feel secure.

Your DD is still very young so I would tend to stay in her room for a while and slowly remove yourself over a month or so. Eventually she will just go to bed with a feed or cuddle and you won't need to be in the same room at all. I also found that having every sleep in the one spot helps make the transition easier.

Good luck

[queenbee]

Thanks Bek, will be staying in her room for a little while. Good advice!

Astrid, the only thing she has in her custard is MAIZE THICKENER 1422, I googled it but there is no information on it having negative effects on children. Is this the same thing you are talking about?

Last night was the first night I slept in her room, went pretty well, much better than recent nights anyway. I did give her a dreamfeed though around 8.30pm but only 100mL and she sucked that down! Not sure if that helped the sleep.

She has 3 teeth down the bottom now, waiting for the other one to come through, any day now, perhaps that is disrupting her also. I guess this is all about trial and error!!

Thanks everyone!