Heaven-I remeber the first 10 or so weeks like that! Not going to sleep before about 11pm!! But it does get better my DS now goes to sleep around 6:30pm and he has done it himself.
I was also like Babymama, just held him while he slept! Not very heplful I know but you are doing a great job! Enjoy your beautiful little bubba!!
Thankyou everyone I feel better knowing it's the same for everyone. When will she change? Will she be sleeping on me forever? lol. Do I have to do anything to help her sleep better on her own?
It frustrates me that she only sleeps on me and I can't do anything but then trying to get her to sleep in her basinette frustrates me even more so I end up just going for the trusty HAB!
I will try to focus on enjoying the cuddles, lol.
Thankyou for all your suggestions! I am going to start a bedtime routine from tonight!
As eveyone else has said Bella was exactly the same for about the first 3 months... BUT now she will not let me rock her to sleep and RARELY sleeps with me holding her at all now she like to be put down in her cot and puts her self to sleep! How I miss when she would only sleep with me holding her!
Also Bella was a night owls also and would have her last feed at like 11-12 and then go to bed and I just went with what ever she wanted now she has her last bottle at about 6.45 and then off to bed and gets up at 8 the folowing morning. This was a routine that she settled into her self! She starts to get tiered at 6 but I stretch her out a bit so she will sleep longer!
So there is deff a light at the end of the tunnel. I am of the beliefe that if you let them set the rules and the pace (even tho its hard at the start) then they will settle into whats best for them and not need to be foreced into anything.. just my 2 cents!
Age will help her sleep better on her own. I called it the magical "12 week" mark. I was BFing Mia at that age and i was so stuffed.. waking 4-5 times a night. Taking hours to get her to sleep... and all the crying.. oh the crying She just woke up one day around 12 weeks and it was like she couldnt be bothered crying anymore and she worked out.. hay.. i feel much better when i sleep.
Keep doing everything u are doing. If that is rocking her to sleep then so be it. One day she will suprise u and just stay asleep. Are u feeding her to sleep? that might help coz shes got a full tum? Can u hang a mobile on her bassinet so she gets used to it being "a nice place" to be. Some people find them lamps that make shapes move around on the roof help, so mayb look into one of them? What about getting a swing for her? Lots of babies sleep in them and it saves u rocking here..
All very normal behaviour. I had a baby that would scream most of the night if I so much as thought of getting off the lounge, would not get off me at all given half a chance. But on his own, at the magical 12 weeks mark, things started to change. He will start sorting out his own routine in his own time. I thought it would never happen, then one day it simply does and you wonder how it happened. Just go with the flow. Accepting that my DS would decide what to do and when was a step in the right direction for me. Suddenly it did not seem so hard anymore.
Enjoy the cuddles now, I miss them so much My DS is now a very active toddler and I fondly remember the days of cuddling on the lounge and not moving. It feels like forever now, but too soon it will disappear.
Thankyou again, I am going to just go with it (bugger the housework) and enjoy it instead of stressing about what she should be doing!! Ahhh.... I feel better already. Though I'm going to have to get better at typing one handed.
And guess what!!!!!!!!!!!! We tried out a little bed time routine and I got her down at 8.30pm last night!!!!!!!!!!!!! Big difference!!
Hi Heaven...it all sounds very normal for a 6 week old bub.
I found if I rocked/fed DD until she was drowsy and then put her down, she seemed to be happier about going in the bassinet than if I put her down asleep (they have such good sensors for being put down don't they?) It didn't work all the time, but on those occassions it did work, I could at least have a shower or do some housework.
I spent SO much time in the fiirst 10 weeks worrying about all the things I "should" be doing and bad habits I was possibly forming etc. Arrgh! It was crap. Then, at the 12 weeks mark, DD started showing me her preferences. Now she goes to bed at 7pm, will settle herself to sleep and only wakes twice for feeds in the night. She is easier to put down for naps and is such a little person now.
The period from 6-12 weeks is not necessarily easier than the first 6 weeks, because bub is suddenly aware of the world, and sleeps less, BUT then it starts getting much easier.
Hang in there. The Hug a bub was my lifesaver, as were afternoon naps.
You're doing such a great job with her...and you will be rewarded for all those cuddles you're giving her now. She will trust in you and be easier to put down when she is ready because of it.
Heaven, Miss J is still abit like this during the day. At night we have a little bedtime routine for her and it helps her go down a lot earlier - same as the one we did with DD1 which worked for her too.
We start with naked time and some tummy time on the floor, then I giver her a massage. Then she has a nice warm bath and gets into her pyjamas. She feeds one side, I wrap her and give her the other side. By the time she has finished she is really sleepy so I burp her and put her to bed. She generally goes off to sleep around 7-8pm with that routine.
Thanks girls!! She went down at 8.30 again last night so the routine is working!! Yay!
BUT (of course there's a but), she sleeps until 12.30 and then is up every 1-2 hrs after that wanting a feed! Not a good time for cluster feeding. With that? She used to have 2 longer sleeps at night, would only wake up for 1 feed in the middle.
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Not very heplful I know but you are doing a great job! Enjoy your beautiful little bubba!!
I feel better knowing it's the same for everyone. When will she change? Will she be sleeping on me forever? lol. Do I have to do anything to help her sleep better on her own?
She just woke up one day around 12 weeks and it was like she couldnt be bothered crying anymore and she worked out.. hay.. i feel much better when i sleep.
My DS is now a very active toddler and I fondly remember the days of cuddling on the lounge and not moving. It feels like forever now, but too soon it will disappear.
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