Thanks for the feedback.

Arcadia, I hear you on the
still feel some guilt that I couldn't work it out without any crying
It is a real challenge and I have held out on anything but gentle thus far. I just feel I am at a point now where the problems are impacting in a very very detrimental way on the relationships between all of us in the family so I need to look further afield for answers. Not that I am giving up on gentle techniques, I just need some more advice. Still, the guild that I can't do the feed to sleep, all the time in the world, calm mummy, there for you, whatever you need baby - is still there.

i am really hoping that I can find help that is sympathetic with and fits in with my general philosophy of attachment parenting.

I live and hope!