I figure the more time I spend with him now feeding, cuddling, rocking etc will pay off and and I'll have a happier, more relaxed child in the long run. It sucks that I miss out on going out and what not, but it's only for a few years. I have 50 more years to go out and have fun, DS will only be a cuddly baby for a few years!
That is so true. That's what we try and remember too.

Last night I had a Learning Ladder (books and toys) party at my house and right at the beginning of the demonstration I had to excuse myself for half an hour to go and cuddle my DD, who would not go to sleep. She's not liked being rocked to sleep for the last few months, and generally self-settles, but some nights she still needs our help and last night was one of them.

One of my (late) guests actually arrived while I was with her and I heard them saying "Don't know where she's gone" but too bad, so sad, they are big enough to look after themselves for half an hour... DD's anxiety levels are much too important to me than them wondering where I am.

We are lucky though that my MIL is a fan of rocking to sleep so we can leave DD with her to put to bed and are able to go out.