just thought id throw my 2 cents worth in....When i bought DD home from hospital my mum came to stay for two weeks (from the uk) i had DD in bed with me cause thats just what felt natural to me, but my mum kindly informed me that i wasnt ment to do this and that she needed to be in her bassinet by the bed so that i could easily move her into her own room when she was 3 months old
She still sleeps in our bed, i love it and wouldnt have it any other way!! My mum still thinks she should be in her own room 12 hours a night sleeping on her own with out any help. But im not one for CC or CIO . I feed her to sleep, when DD was new she slept in her sling four hours a day or on my lap. I think its deffinatley a developmental thing, as now when she wakes in the night we can sometimes just have a cudle and off she goes back to sleep.
I think the best thing to do when your out with family and they make comments is just smile, say ''this is what works for us at the moment and i love it'' . Good luck and be proud of what a great job your doing and the effort your putting in!!