IrishConn I completely understand you're frustration. DS still wakes frequently and really doesn't have any pattern. One night he might wake twice and the next he may wake 6 times. He also has some nights where he'll wake at 2am and cry until 4am - I've tried a lot of things to settle him in those moments but eventually he goes to sleep from exhaustion (I think).

With my DS I feed him if he wakes unless it's been less than 2 hours. So I usually feed him at about 10pm and 2 or 4am. Other wake ups I pick him up for a cuddle and he usually settles back to sleep - if the cuddle doesn't work I feed him.

I know it's so hard to know what to do. We tried a lot of things and decided that the cuddles worked best and failing that, the feed. Maybe try one thing and see how that goes for a few nights. You can always abandon the idea if it gets stressful.

I also had/have PND and know what it's like just getting through the day. Try to take care of yourself too