thread: Just wanted to know I wasn't the only co-sleeper :)

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  1. #1
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    Oct 2009
    Bonbeach, Melbourne
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    Not alone! We shared the bed with DD from the very first day she was born. At first it was my DD, my DH and myself, but now we are separated and DD is bigger, so it's just DD and I.

  2. #2
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    Jul 2008
    Melbourne
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    i co-slept with my DS from about 5 months till he was about 2ish. then he decided that he'd like to sleep in his own bed! he's 2.5 now & will come into our bed if he wakes up during the night. i often felt a bit trapped, like you, but i tried to take full advantage of naptimes (esp when it became one long nap) - not alot of housework was done but i felt it was more important to have some me time & a break.

    from 5 months till 20 months DS & i co-slept in another room from my DP. it was a bit frustrating sometimes but DS snores less, so that's one bonus but we DP & i did get time together after DS had gone to bed & that time has increased as we've gone on & DS has got older.

    tbh, i know i was often frustrated at the time & felt like it may be forever but in hindsight the time passed very quickly. and looking over at them while they're sleeping is so lovely - makes me forget any mischief & havoc that has been created during the day!!

  3. #3
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    Apr 2009
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    We co-sleep but thats with DH and I with DD in the middle. We have done this since DD was 4months old. We did it with our first DD who is now 5 and she still sneaks in although now we make her get in baby DD's cot which is against the bed as we don't want big DD kicking baby DD (big DD thrashes around alot). She is in the cot 50% of the time and in her own bed the other 50%. It works well for us and will help DH when I return to night shift (930pm until 730am). At this stage we have no plans on moving baby DD out and when she does maybe she will share with her sister as they both like to bedshare. That may change if I decide to ttc again as I would be worried about getting kicked by DD when I was pregnant. When I was pregnant with my last bub we really started getting big DD into her own bed for this reason as well as to prepare her for not always bedsharing with us when we knew another baby would need to come in (for BF's) We didn't want her thinking she had been turfed out when the new baby arrived.

  4. #4
    Nothing like a cuddle from DD after a hard day's work!

    Oct 2007
    in my own world
    3,267

    No alone
    I co-slept with DD from age 1 until 3.5years old. Unfortunately had to put her in her own bed room as she would kick me quite often so i wouldnt get much sleep.

    I absolutely loved co-sleeping with DD and even now goes and cuddles her in her bed. Loved just being able to hug her and the warmth of her near me.

  5. #5
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    Jun 2010
    Tiny Town
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    Certainly not alone! There are plenty of parents who openly co-sleep and/or bedshare, and I suspect because the guidelines are so strict about having baby in their own bed, that there are more parents who have done it but don't admit it. No-one else in my Mother's Group has said that they bedshare, but at least one has bub in a cot in their room.

    AFM, DD has been in our room from day 1. If she's waking a lot she comes in to bed so I don't have to keep getting up lol. The last two nights though, it's DH who's been the problem! Two nights ago DD was in bed and DH was dreaming that he was lying on the floor in the lounge playing with her. I keep my arm around her so neither of us can get too close, and DH started playing with my arm! Then he found DD, started playing with her and woke her up. Last night DD slept pretty well and was in her own cot, I was fast asleep, when suddenly DH was tapping my head and shaking me, saying "you rolled all the way over". I thought so what?! Let me sleep! Turns out he was dreaming I'd rolled onto DD and was trying to get me off her!

    But yeah, other than those two things, we're loving having her so close We won't start to transition to her own room for nights until after 12 months.

  6. #6
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    Jan 2010
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    Another co-sleeper/bed sharer here. Miss P has slept in my arms from day 1, all warm and fluffy, snuggled up against my chest! Technically DH sleeps with us but he always gives DD1 and DS a cuddle when they go to bed at night and he often falls asleep with them so I just leave him!

    We also co slept with DD1, she went into her own bed at about 3. We would have co slept with DS but he didn't like it, preferred his own space at night. DH was concerned about rolling on DD and has told me that this is why he often goes to sleep in bed with one of the big kids. DD sleeps so snuggled up against me that DH would have to lie on top of me to squash her! We do have a big king sized bed so there is plenty of room for everyone - we have woken up in the morning with our bed full; me, DH, DD2 snuggled up to me, DD1 on the other side of me, DS on the other side of DH, the cat squished in around someone's back and the dog at our feet!!

    I don't think my quality of sleep is as good with DD in the bed as I am constantly aware of where she is, but it's worth it for the snuggles!

  7. #7
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    Oct 2007
    Middle Victoria
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    We co-slept/bed shared full time up till DD was 18 months old. DD now has her own bed in her own room, but still comes in to us some mornings or some nights. My DH works shift work and when he is on night shift DD will sometimes start the night in her room but then come in to our room.

    My next little one will also be sleeping in our room, either in a hammock or in our bed, as our DD did. I would love for the two kids to share a room, and potentially a bed, when they are big enough.

  8. #8
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    Jul 2006
    Melbourne
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    We co-sleep (sort of). DD starts off in her own bed and most nights she wanders down to us and sleeps in the middle of DH & I. Sometimes if she is particularly restless, one of us will top and tail her. DH doesn't really like co-sleeping but I quite like it. Initially I was against bed sharing with anyone other than DH but I find it easier, we all get some sort of sleep. DH often asks DD if she will sleep in her own bed all night to which she replies 'no!'. He asks why & she just says because she wants to cuddle us or because she won't! Gotta love her honesty. Like I said to DH she will sleep in her own bed all through the night (she does sometimes) one day soon. (he is somewhat sceptical, haha)

  9. #9
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    Jan 2011
    ~~Off With The Fairies~~
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    Not alone! We shared the bed with DD from the very first day she was born. At first it was my DD, my DH and myself, but now we are separated and DD is bigger, so it's just DD and I.
    We are the same as PZ

    First daughter we started co sleeping from 6 weeks and never looked back! Kicked hubby into the spare room (he snores like a flippin freight train, so this was the best excuse to kick him out! << insert evil laugh)

    As soon as lil miss Z was born she was co-sleeping with me! Lil Miss H, now 4, sleeps in her own room...unless she wakes up, then she crawls into the spare room with dad! .. she enjoys his snoring :| Kids really are weird.

    I couldn't imagine not having co-slept with my babies. Really is an amazing bonding time xx

  10. #10
    Registered User

    Jul 2009
    Riding it out...
    4,959

    Another co sleeper here, in a different room from DP for exactly the same reasons You're definitely not alone! DS3 was 2 last month and I'm still sleeping with him in his room. No plans to do otherwise just yet, We've just broken free of 2 hourly wake ups all night long, so there's no way I'm changing a thing right now for fear of losing the new found sleep I'm getting

  11. #11
    Registered User

    Feb 2006
    Newcastle, NSW
    4,219

    I say don't worry about what anyone else thinks. If you're comfortable, happy & safely co sleeping then go ahead and enjoy every moment. The years your bubbas want to sleep in your bed fly by so fast so just enjoy the cuddles & the sleep. My eldest 2 co slept until 7. DD1 (14) still hops in with me when DH isn't here