Maybe the fussing is because DS isn't tired enough? DD went through a stage at 11 months, where she would refuse normal bedtime if I let her have a late arvo sleep. Now I make sure she isn't alseep after 4:30pm and its enough to make her willing to sleep at a reasonable time (like 7-7:30pm).

Is DS fussing at other feed times?

As for weaning off feeding to sleep, I occasionally feed DD until dopey and then pat her off to sleep in her cot (if it looks like its going to work). But at 11mo, I would continue feeding to sleep because he's too young to understand how to lie still.

I sometimes fantasise about the days DD used to self settle, but yanno...(and I about to start a thread about this)...I love helping DD fall asleep atm.

Hope you find a solution to your dilemma soon. GL