My GP told me to controlled cry :(

[Pip82]

Hello... 2 threads in a few days from me I need to get off hte computer haha

Anyway I went to the GP the other day to get a lump on my back checked out, that is all sorted now I think but the conversation got to

GP: So are you still breastfeeding?

Me: Yes

GP: No Reply....How many times she wake up at night?

Me: 2 or 3 (I didn't say on a good night)

GP: She should be sleeping through by 6 months you know, no wonder you are tired.

Me: Really? Yes I am tired

GP: 'they' recommend controlled crying

and proceeded to tell me how to do it.

I said that I'm not really comfortable with doing that. I feed her and then she goes back to sleep.

She then said well I suppose thats ok if you want to do it but its better to 'nip it in the bud' now

I am annoyed and disappointed. Also doubting myself a bit. This GP is young and I have had no issues with her before. She is also an obstetrician I think. She didn't ask any other information about Sarah (who is 7 months on Saturday) like teeth (yes she is getting some) solids (no she wont eat anything yet despite lots of trying) etc etc or anything about my ideas or views. Just straight out 'you should do controlled crying'. I think this is plain irresponsible. People trust their doctors (not me now). And who are 'they' who recommend this controlled crying business anyway. Don't worry, I will not do it. I'm just annoyed because I finally thought I found a GP who is living in this century. I also wish I had said something to her then.

Am I right? Sarah will one day sleep all night without me having to controlled cry? I'll be patient. One day will be nice though.

Thanks for listening.

Pip

[Kitt3n]

This is why I hate so many doctors/professionals. It's so so so hard to find someone who, as you say, lives in this century.

Hun, Laa is just over 1 and still feeds during the night. She is also healthy and happy. :P to your doc!

[boomba]

Please keep doing what you are doing. Yes your beautiful daughter will sleep through and no you wont have to CC wiht her. Babies need us to help them sleep...would you sleep well if you were left to cry for yourself to sleep..I know i wouldnt. Just follow youre instincts and NEVER doubt them
Maybe drop off off a copy of The science of parenting/what every parent should know...that should help your doctor give the right info.

Your doing a great job xx

[~MummaBear~]

i hate how so many Drs / profesionals are so quick to jump in with advice like that...
You DD will sleep thru when she is ready and if you are happy doing things the way you are dont stop! As long as you and your DD are happy and healthy there is no need to do anything different
Im pretty sure by the time she leaves home she will be more than happy to self settle without being B/F ROFL
You are doing a great job!!!

[~Kaz~]

I know what it's like to be comfortable with your choices as a parent but still find yourself wondering when so called experts (be they professionals or other parents) tell you to try CC. I don't think it's that normal for a 6 month old to be "sleeping through" by now. Did the GP define sleeping through at all? Some babies do of course sleep 12 hours straight at that age, but an awful lot don't. You could always write the GP a letter expressing your disappointment and attaching some info (there's some good articles in BB) about CC and it's effects on babies.

[Shanti]

From my understanding... babies "sleep through" when they are developmentally ready to.

My DD is 10.5mths old and STILL not sleeping through and wakes 2-5 times a night still.... we are STILL waiting to get more sleep....we are so tired in this house but refuse to do it any other way.... we believe in gentle parenting also and we are co-sleeping now so we can all get more rest....

Don't listen to advice like that, follow your parental instinct YOU know what is best. The comfort you give DD now, will set her up for life later... she'll be the independent and confident kid/teenager/adult!

I STILL haven't found a GP i like either.... GP's are very "generalised" in their fields of work and know little of ALOT of things I like to think! LOL (does that make sense?) like they aren't specialised in babies for example.... they just know alot of info on lots of diff things. and not necessarily updated info!!!

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

Hate to say it, but my nearly-3-year-old isn't sleeping through every night. Some nights, but not all.

At 6-7m old, no way.

I used to think "well, I'm up for what, half a minute to latch him on then we go back to sleep. OR I could sit with a timer for five minutes, then ten... then a lot less sleep. Yeah, I won't do that one."

People who recommended CC to me more than once (first time receives a polite no, I don't want to do that) got a few short answers and quick facts about brain development. My son will NEVER feel abandoned by me deliberately. (Sure, sometimes I'm not as quick as I'd like, but never deliberately let him cry.)

My GP reckons DS is high maintainence (probably right when I look at other children and hear stories), but she knows my stance of CCing so doesn't go there, apart to say that if I want to try it then it won't necessarily hurt. If I don't then that's my choice.