just roll with it hun! DD was a perfect sleeper from about 5 weeks - she would sleep through for up to 11 hours - now we're on a 3 hourly thing over night most nights - and it doesn't bother me in the least. i figure she has a reason to wake up, and i'm going to attend to that reason! i have drinks of water through the night so i can't expect her to not drink!
DH and I both wake when she does (she is on his side of the bed so he gets up to her) but she wakes, whinges, feeds, and is back asleep in 15mins max, during which DH sleeps anyway. it isn't bothering us, so we simply go with it. if people ask, i just say she's a good kid (which she is!) and close the discussion down - or put the focus on the bits that she IS doing, not the fact she isn't sleeping through - like good day sleeps, eating solids, her latest new word.... i've had the sleep school thing thrown at me more often than i can mention - always by people that haven't had a child in YEARS - and none of them parented their kids the way WE want to parent DD
as has been said - if it's not a problem for you, then it's not a problem
Kaz - It took a long time for Kyson to push his daytime naps longer than the 45 minutes too. Once he started doing it I found I was checking on him all the time to make sure he was ok, lol! part of me is almost glad that he never started giving me longer stretches at night, because I can imagine that it is harder to go back to frequent wakings after getting used to full nights of sleep again.
Roses - I think they are perfect too I just wish there was a way I could make him grow up less quickly hehe.
Jas - I think you are exactly right. I don't think people are saying things to upset me. I think they honestly think I must think that it's a problem and that I would want help or suggestions. When people start asking what technieques I'm using to get him to sleep longer, I just tell them that I'm just following Kyson's lead and gently letting him decide when he's ready to sleep longer
Heaven - I remember that you made a post a while back about sleeping as well. It's so good to hear that you've found "peace" with the way things are too. I'm sure we're going to miss these snuggly middle of the night feeds when they have grown up and won't even let us kiss them anymore!
BG - Isn't it odd how people equate a "good baby" with one that sleeps through the night? I think it's the strangest question when people ask "is he a good baby?". I always answer "of course he is, he's the best"
Thanks to everyone for their comments. Sometimes it's just really reasurring to have others give you a bit of a pat on the back. xoxox
Loving the sound of that routine, Krystie. As you know, that's more sleep than Phoebe and I are getting atm. Wish I could be as relaxed about it as you, but your attitude is encouraging and inspirational. One day I'm sure we will sleep. LOL!
Krystie - the saying "if it ain't broke, dont fix it" comes to mind here, although Kyson's routine might not suit other mothers, who cares, it only needs to suit one Mummy - YOU!
I used to get sick of people asking if Bailey slept through the night - in the end I just started saying YES, much easier and then people stop offering you 'advice' that you really dont need or want.
Every situation is different, we've been working on our sleep here as I am going back to work in 8 weeks, so sleeping through the night in our household has a different effect to yours (I'm making this point to show that every families needs are different LOL).
Anyway, from meeting you and your beautiful smiley Kyson and seeing endless photo's there is no doubt in my mind that what you are doing is absolutely PERFECT - so keep doing it, you are raising a wonderful, happy, healthy and confident little man!!
Just read your post and had to laugh - a friend of mine said my 7and a half week old should be sleeping through by now! She also thinks he needs to go on solids because he's a big baby and has lots of feeds. AT SEVEN WEEKS OLD!!! Suffice to say I totally disregard any parenting advice she gives out.
Some people have some funny ideas don't they? Lol.
Just wanted to thank everyone again for all their support.
I had someone ask me today "Is he a good baby?". I said "of course he is". They then said "so he sleeps through the night then?". Grrrrrrrr! Comments like that make me SO angry! Just because a baby doesn't sleep through the night DOES NOT make then a bad baby! Sorry, had to vent! :P
Oh I hate that "good-baby" question too Krystie!! It really bothers me. I generally say "well there's no such thing as a bad baby is there?" It (hopefully) makes them stop and think about what they've just implied (probably unintentionally).
I read in another thread recently that up to 50% of babies don't sleep through the night regularly during the first year. So if people want to equate good with sleeping through, we should ask them if they did or didn't sleep through when they were a baby!
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I just wish there was a way I could make him grow up less quickly hehe.
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