Astrid, do you have a Hug-A-Bub or am I mixing it up? If so, have you tried settling her in that? Have you tried hiring a hammock? Maybe try some alternative settling?

It might seem like there is no end in sight now, but keep doing the same thing over, so one day it will just click with her... 'aha! I have a shower and then it's time for bed..' etc...

When she's in the cot and 'protests' (can't help but think of a certain someone with that word!!) what do you mean? Elijah will sometimes have a grizzle at me but I try and distract him, point at things on his bedding, sing, chat - and then he's forgotten all about it and lies down. Perhaps you could try seeing if you can get past a protest if it's not hysterical? I never leave Elijah - I just sit there with quiet soothing words, pat, talk, sometimes if he's really upset we come out and try again later.