I dont seem to get this pain, maybe its because I switch sides that bubs sleeps on at each feed.. were are still having 3-4 night time feeds so i get this opportuniy, i guess it would b different if bubs was not feeding so much at night, i also sometimes sleep him in the crook of my arm and its much more comfy,,,, dont know about 4 bubs though
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my solution to same thing (in my situation)
dh (at the time) slept on the couch (for years) - his sleep apoena (CPAP machine) stopped me from sleeping
so bilby and i slept on the queen sized bed together.
a full body pillow also helped me deal with the sore back thang. you get them for about $30 from kmart. looks like a human sized sausage LOL but it was brilliant to sleep with, pregnant and then with a nb.
I only co-sleep for part of the night and I have a cradle for my baby in our room. I couldn't do it all night because of the pain, and I was the same as Rory and thought I was doing it all wrong. I feed my baby in our bed and sleep with him for a little while after but once I wake up a bit stiff, I wake up DH and he comes and moves DS2 into the cradle. The cradle is quite large (though not as big as a cot so it fits well in our room) and our babies have all stayed in it until they were 9 months old. I do continue to co-sleep for part of the night once they weren't in our room anymore but DH would take them back to their own cot in the middle of the night. It was the only way I could make it all work for me and have a settled bub and still get a decent night sleep.
Getting DH to move our baby, rather than moving him myself seems to be less disruptive to him than if I try and get up while he is lying on my arms. It wakes him up if I try and get up with him. It only takes DH a second to put him in bed. I kind of feel like it is the best of both worlds for us
I'm glad others experience this. I thought I was doing it wrong. When DD was little, DH would sleep in the spare room to give us more room. If he was in with us it was because DD was having reflux/wind issues and was sleeping on his chest. It got better once DD was able to roll over and sit up from lying down.
I've found that having my arm up under my pillow and head is much more comfortable. I lie on my side and rest my head on the inside of my arm, rather than on top of my shoulder, and then adjust the pillow to better my neck and keep my head off of my shoulder (sorry not sure how to really describe it this early in the morning). It doesn't require rotating my shoulder as far and doesn't interfere with blood flow. It also allows a little more freedom of movement. I also have upper back and neck issues but they are no worse than usual while sleeping like this.
Nope. I wrap baby and place him high in the bed between our pillows (which we move to the outside edges) then I sleep like normal. I couldn't sleep in painful positions without moving. It would kill me. When he wakes I unwrap him, feed sitting up then re-wrap and put him back down. Means I don't get to feed while sleeping but he feeds so quickly it works better for me as it means I can sleep comfortably but still have him close by.
That would have never worked for me as DD always fed to sleep and then even the slightest bump woke her up. If she then realised I was not right there, she'd scream bloody murder. So I would feed to sleep, then try and crawl away.
The only way DD would sleep without immediate contact with me was when she could sleep on her belly. I was not comfortable enough to let her do that when she was a newborn, hence why she slept on my chest.
Those snuggle beds also wouldn't have worked for us.
She HATED to be wrapped from about 2 weeks onwards.
WOW! I never thought this topic would get so many responses... Nice to hear I'm not alone, but I'm also sorry that the joy of co-sleeping seems to be marred by the pain of it for so many of us... Some good ideas though. For my firstborn I used a hammock for some of the night, but haven't tried that this time round. DD is different, and I think she'd wake more being in the hammock.
We have a KS bed too and I try and roll DD over before each feed to swap sides. ATM she doesn't seem to be waking much to feed so I'm going to try and make the conscious effort to move my arm from around her and move my head down to her level.
How do they do this in countries where co-sleeping is the norm!?
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