Kris-- I really hear you about your desperation now. You have to do what works for you. That is the most important. As you know there are wait lists and you need a referral. Why not go to your gp for the refferal and take that opportunity to chat about options and make sure there is no medical problem like ear infections. While you wait call Pinky again and look into homeopathy or an osteopath. Read up on other strategies to cope for your own sake--- hire a sitter for a few hours in the day so you can sleep etc.
Also whilebi have friends who have done Masada, have a look at o'connell centre abdcqueen Elizabeth. I also found that at your local maternal health centre there are usually a sleep specialist. I usedine and she was considerate of my wishes and supportive. The nurse can also help you find solutions to cope.
I am reading books online or checking out from the library. Sometimes these simple actions help us feel more in control of our lives and enable us to see our situation in a different light. You are doing well and it will pass.
Please take care.

Having been reminded about homeopathy I'm going to think about that! Also that totally reminded me about my osteo who was helpful in ds's early days.
try to find some time for yourself. It really really helps.