PLEASE HELP! 23mth old

[~Kim~]

she says that at this age kids who are parented to sleep (ie staying with a child until they are settled etc) are more likely to be better sleepers down the track.

Couldn't agree more. I used to find it a chore but I've sat on the floor next to the cot/bed holding a hand and reading outloud from whatever magazine or book i was reading. SOmetimes I'd sing, sometimes I didn't. SOmetimes I used to just sit there and contemplate my navel.
I didn't engage her directly but I was there so she could hear me. Eventually I didn't have to hold her hand, then I could say I'll be back in to check on you...and she'd be asleep.
Archie's a very bright little boy Elissa, he will get the hang of it. He won't be precocious. You are doing a good job.
DH said to me it was my fault last week when Darcy refused to sleep in her own bed. I told him rubbish. I don't care where she sleeps as long as she feels safe. Sometimes she sleeps on her fold out lounge next to our bed, sometimes we camp out in the walk in wardrobe on a mattress. In a few short years she won't want to know me. I'm not going to miss out because someone else thinks my kid isn't doing the 'right' thing.

[widdly]

lilprecious - thanks so much for taking the time to post and give me new ideas

astrid - thankyou very much, you have certainly helped

kim - big hugs. Thankyou, everything you said is how i feel too, especially your view that they are only little for so long. That is what i was trying to explain to DH last night, that soon enough he wont want to be seen with us let alone cuddle with us. I guess i have to just go with my own instincts, DH just makes me a bit paranoid that i am creating a brat and nobody wants a brat! poo poo to everyoe and their views from today onwards, thanks again

Turns out Arch has come out in a red spotty rash all over his body this morning so maybe that has something to do with his recent night time difficulties.

Last night i went with my instincts and let him fall asleep in our bed then put him into his bed. He ended up back in with us early this morning, he slept so well with us though and woke up in such a happy mood, thats all the proof i need that co-sleeping is not a bad thing!