Please help I need some sleep

[Kmn]

If he's a little whirlwind - is he getting caffeine from you? My DS seems to be much more affected by caffeine than the other bubs in our Mum's group - more than one tea a day and we are guaranteed a poor night's sleep.

Can you increase his solids during the day? And really really try and offer BF in the hour or 2 before bed?

I hope it improves for you
hugs
Kate

[Eternalbear]

Thanks I had not thought of caffine. I do have a bit of it in the mornings to get me going :S
He does really well with solids. I guess I need to cut the caffine and insist he breastfeed better

[hj1981]

Can i recommend a website for u too check out - it helped us heaps with our little one!
Google Worlds best sleep solutions (the sleep store) - or its Segment Publishing : Design.Develop.Host
Hopefully that helps u!

[Kazbah]

Maybe offer him something to focus on? I found with my DS that during the day, he'd sleep really badly (not turn off) until I found out he'd zone out watching the leaves on the tree move. At night, just something to watch - a light show on the wall, even a computer screensaver would help.

Good luck!

[hj1981]

ops are we not suppose to reccomend websites? cause what is written there is not what i wrote!
I apologise everyone if we are not meant too!

[Visitor8]

sleep school is a good idea. a friend of mine went to one with her 11 month old and hasnt looked back

[Eternalbear]

Aren't sleep schools just CIO camps???

Melissa

[Lulu]

Yes they are, I've been to two and left both early.

Have you thought about the effect dairy may be having?

I'd also maybe try to stop the playtime routine. Maybe get up off the couch and make a cuppa when he slides off the boob for a play, and not be so available to him for so long. So when is boob time its lunchtime iykwim?

[Eternalbear]

We are dairy egg and soy free. Quinn has multiple allergies so not that I'm afraid

Thanks for the suggestion to not let him play I'll give that a go

Melissa

[Ginger]

mel- my ds went through an absolutely shocking sleep period when he was 9-10 months old. i even signed up to go to sleep school, even though i am totally against cio and cc. anyway, i couldn't go through with it and pulled out at the last minute- it just didn't feel right.
i basically just kept doing what i was doing, and he has gotten a lot better (except for when he is sick or teethingLOL). i noticed a real difference once he got to about 12.5 months. hopefully this is just a 'stage' your ds is going through and that things will get better without you having to do anything too drastic.

[Visitor8]

Aren't sleep schools just CIO camps???

Melissa

CIO?

Do you mean controlled crying?

The one here isn't They helped show my friend how to settle her little one without feeding and rocking, they helped stop her from waking 5+ times a night. She is anti CC so no it wasn't and she was happy with it

[Eternalbear]

oh that's good to know! thanks

[jackrose]

Hi, another one here who had serious sleep deprivation and sleep settling issues at your DS's stage.

I think you have some really good advice here, especially regarding diet (caffeine) and routines. I would definitely try to get up when he tries to play in the middle of a feed and try again later.

I had trouble from about 6 months until 10 months, that was when I completely fell apart after tying so many different techniques for months. I eventually tried a sleep school and it was a savior! We have never looked back. Not all sleep schools are CC only, it is worth having a chat to the staff there to work out how they run the school and how much consideration they place in your wishes.

The most important thing they gave me was the tools to make sleep work throughout the day and night. My DD was having 20-40 min naps daily also and it was pointed out that this was not enough. It means waking at the end of a sleep cycle rather than re-settling and it can be really important to be able to re-settle to get a decent amount of sleep. I was assisted to set up a (flexible) sleep feed play routine again (I had let it go from the early days) and it helped immensely. It might help your DS concentrate on his feeding if it comes after a sleep so that he is more groggy rather than after a play?? (sorry if this is something you already do!)

One other bit of advice from sleep school was to completely drop night feeds (other than a dreamfeed if necessary) by that age. I had been feeding throughout the night and trying to drop feed slowly and I was so relieved to hear that it was ok to just let night feeds go. Apparently my feeding at night was contributing to her mucked up schedule at that age. We kept the dream feed for a few weeks but straight away my DD was sleeping better at night and during the day and BFing much better throughout the day. I would definitely try giving him water in the place of a BF at night.... however.... as with all advice, if it doesn't feel right, go back to what you are comfortable with. Just because it works for one baby doesn't mean.....

especially with your DS's eczema flare ups, you don't want to stress him. Just make sure you treat yourself with as much respect as you need to look after you too!

with regards to the difficulties you have getting him to wind down, I am not much help - although you may wish to look at the effects of some food additives? Sounds like he is an energetic little boy! Lucky you!!