please help im such a bad mother..sleep issues!!!

[trishalishous]

You arent a bad mother at all!
Just be kind to yourself, and just do whatever works for now, and things WILL get better I promise.

[Arcadia]

I think babies just go through stages like that. My ds and dd both have and then suddenly started sleeping better without any help from me. In the meantime how are YOU going to get more sleep, because ultimately that's all you can really change.

Can you go to bed early and take ds into bed with you, so you can resettle more easily? Does your older child have day care days or any time away from you so you can sleep when the baby naps? Can you have a Sunday catch up day, where you just stay in bed all day?

You need to look after yourself

[Artechim]

My first two children were like that - they were fantastic sleepers as newborns but around 3 months they started waking very frequently. DS woke every hour from 3-8 months old. DD slightly less. Now my third baby is a great sleeper. I have done nothing differently with them and I honestly believe that it is not a parenting issue but just how they are so please don't beat yourself up over something that is most likely not your fault at all.

Forget what the books say - if dummy and wrapping help then keep going with it. He will outgrow it eventually.

I don't really have any advice because I have been there a couple of times myself and couldn't find any solutions that worked for us. I did have them in the bed with me so I could feed them back to sleep without having to get up which did help me to function.

I agree with the idea of getting a bit of help so you can have a catch up nap during the day. Can your DH/mum/MIL/friend take the kids for a walk while you have a snooze? I know how exhausting it can be xx

[onthefly]

First, please excuse my edit - I put some paragraph breaks in so it was easier to read.


I see nothing in this post to suggest you're a bad mother. So your baby sleeps like a baby - that's to be expected. It's pretty rough, I know! And no doubt you feel like crap and desperately need some sleep, but that does not make you a bad mother.

Your job is to a) know your child - and it takes time and practice to get to know how to really hear them; and b) make them feel good.
Whether or not your baby sleeps well according to Western cultural expectations is neither here nor there.

My honest advice? Bring him to bed with you. Or whatever makes him happy and leaves you feeling 'right' about it. And please stop judging your parenting ability on whether and how your child sleeps.