Hey Scrappy It can be so hard can't it.

First of all little babies and plenty of big babies don't tend to self settle. They often still need our help whether it is by holding, rocking, feeding etc. Also little babies rarely "sleep through". I know for many weeks that Maggie never had long stretches of sleep. In those early days it really was a repetitive cycle of feeding, changing and sleeping.

Do you mind explain exactly what you expect from her at the moment? Maybe if you alter your expectations then it wont be so stressful for both you and her. Just asking this as I got both Maggie and myself so stressed after listening too much to the "should brigade". Once I realised that I was expecting the wrong thing for us, the situation improved greatly.

I found what really helped me was a sling (Hug-A-Bub) etc. Maggie would often fall asleep in it (as long as I was moving around). It has the advantage that Bubs gets a good sleep and you can get a few things done, which in turn helps reduce your own stress levels.