Positive stories please!!!

[jackrose]

because of the security I gave him by meeting his needs.

Good for you, this is exactly what it is all about!

I have another success story here.

Co-sleeping and feeding to sleep successfully, now with a two year old who happily sleeps in her big bed.

I did not always feed to sleep, but just didn't get stressed if that was what happened.

I did find that at about 6 months - 8 months, the co-sleeping stopped working as well for us as DD was looking for the breast all night and was not settling properly as she just wanted to constantly feed. I was not getting any sleep so we then started her sleeping in her cot. I think that it is all about reading the signs and going with them. I will definitely be co-sleeping with my next one too - provided he/she wants to .

I think it is all about meeting needs and creating a happy self confident baby/child whatever your method. You sound as if you have it all worked out well!

[Starfish]

I am in a bit of a hurry, so will post properly later, but just to let you know:

1) Your bub is still so little. Do you even want him to sleep in a separate bed now? And I don't mean eventually, I mean right now - today - If not, then don't worry - there will come a time when he will want to sleep by himself. So enjoy those cuddles as they won't last forever...

2) DD co-slept and fed to sleep when she was younger. She is nearly 3 now and very very confident and falls asleep on her own, etc. Please refer to my point above - it may take two years for your DS to fall asleep by himself (DD went through phases before that, but it only after 2 that she consistently falls asleep without the boob, etc). It may take only a year, but regardless of the time - it will happen and it will be all over before you know it.

I believe that most kids learn to self settle naturally between the ages of 2-3, but some may take longer (hence the 4 year olds you mentioned), but they all learn eventually. Also, with the four year olds you're referring to - you don't know the full story - there may have been other medical/health/family issues at play, so please don't be quick to believe people who blame this on AP unless you know the full story.

Good luck.