Same situation here hun - except I think Blue has spent about 2hours total in the bassinette since he was born....LOL

My situation is almost identical to yours.... when I put him to sleep on the couch with a v pillow around him he'll sleep for max 45 mins on a good day - but if I wear him in the HAB I'll sometimes get 2 hours....
He's the same as your DD at night too....

My MCHN was HORRIFIED when she found out about Blue's day sleeps but I just figure that if he's happy and relaxed I will be too (works well in theory)

I reckon whatever works for you is the best thing!!!

Your doing a great job xoxox