Clarrie - good on you for sticking with what YOU feel is right. Try to ignore other people who are not Bonnie's mother!!
I have had HUGE issues with my DS' sleep but at almost 6mths old we are finally seeing the light. He now sleeps 2 x 1.5hr blocks most days and night time varies from really good at 1-2 brief wakings to several or being up for 2hrs in the wee hours.
I did seek some help at a private hospital mother/baby unit and was very nervous they would pressure me into CC (which I would never do). Fortunately, The place I went was great - NO CC policy and they were very gentle with the babies (and mums).
They did encourage no night feeds and this has acually worked for Logan (no tears involved). He has last feed at 10pm and I just attempt to resettle him at any wakings or lately have gone back to bringing him into bed so at least I can lie down if he wants to say awake. I must note that he is not upset at all without the night feeds and does feed MUCH better in the day. I don't feel, however, that he was ever really that keen for the night feeds -just wanted to be awake at strange hours(and still does!). The feeding never got him back to sleep otherwise I would certainly have just continued with it.
The other thing I have found helpful for my own rest is to have the cot right next to my side of bed. I can just reach over and replace dummy, hold his hand,stroke head etc. great now the weather is getting cooler
We were totally co-sleeping until about 3.5 mths but it does impact on intimacy with DH so this is our compromise. Must admit, I was more bothered by moving Logan out of the bed than him -he doesn't sleep a great deal better with us or not.
Sorry to ramble but my point is that you should go with your heart and things WILL improve. As long as you are getting enough rest yourself -that really is important so that you can be the best mum to DD.