My last three children have all slept with me up til age of 3 then they seemt to want to go into there own bed. I have Pheeny in with me and I am sick of my family saying you should not be doing that, you'll make it hard for him when he has to go to his own bed and blah blah blah!!!
For me there is no bigger comfort than a childs parents. So when a child is laying in between the two most important people in the world to them, they would feel comforted, warmth, protection, who would not want there baby to feel all that?
Sorry just wanted to know if anyone thinks I am doing the wrong thing?
I am peed at the nasty comment I have been getting .
We tried co-sleeping with our DS when he was just a few weeks old but he didn't seem to understand that it was sleep time in our bed. We have tried it again now that he is older and doesn't sleep very well but he thinks it's party time not sleep time!
If co-sleeping works for you then it's totally your decision. I can't wait until our children are old enough to run and jump into our bed for a weekend cuddle and a snooze. Whilst I didn't co-sleep with my parents I used to go in early on the weekends and have sleep ins with my Mum and Dad and I remember how big and warm their bed was. A lovely childhood memory.
I stick my tongue out at the nay sayers Soul!!
Your sleeping choices are up to you and your babies. You don't visit thier homes and tell them how they should be arranged so they should show the same courtesy to you.
FWIW my MIL told DH that co-sleeping was dangerous and encouraged SIL and us to use CC. We ignored MIL and SIL didn't. Yasin sleeps through in his own bed and his cousin of the same age wakes up in the night and goes to her mum's bed. I feel 100% vindicated in my choices!! I think that co-sleeping gave Yasin the confidence to sleep alone at night because he knows that he's safe and we're only a shout away.
I think you are doing an wonderful thing by co-sleeping... and I share your sentiments exactly. There is no greater comfort and security for baby or little child, then being between Mummy and Daddy... I don't understand the expectation out there that babies should 'learn' to sleep independently of their parents.... they rely on us for everything else - what is wrong with a bit of reassurance and security for them! Western culture actually differs from most other cultures in the world, where it is the most normal and natural thing for babies and children to co-sleep with their parents... maybe you can point that out to the people who question your choices.
There is a fair bit of evidence out there that suggest babies sleep better/more safely being close to Mum's heartbeat and breathing, and this can be less of a SIDS risk.
Mind you, some babies and parents prefer not to co-sleep - and that is perfectly ok too! But its when people comment negatively on your parenting choices, without respecting and considering your reasons for your decisions, that it becomes a problem.
I have had Aidyn co-sleeping with us on and off since a few weeks after birth, and only just now - at 3.5yrs he has decided he doesn't want to sleep in our bed anymore (but that doesn't stop him from asking me to come into his bed LOL).
I have had my share of difficulties with his sleeping habits, and good periods as well, and although I honestly can't say if co-sleeping has benefited his ability to sleep through the night, the other benefits still outweigh the problems.
i wouldnt worry about what other people say just do what ever works my dd is 15 mnths and shes been with us since she was born .at the moment its not working though shes not getting comfortable in our bed shes just getting to big .if you like it then keep on doing it
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