Starting to get depressed about DS's sleep (a bit long) WWYD?

[willow5]

Hi KAz I don't have any advice just DS is 21 months and has slept through maybe 3 times. There is no pattern to his waking like you said. You can't predict anything. I'm often exhausted and cranky and then feel bad if I lose my cool DS also won't accept comfort from DP so it's super frustrating and hard. So just and know you're not alone

[Artechim]

Kaz

I don't know what to say except that I have been there. We have had the whole range - going to bed easily but with hourly wake ups, 2 hour + tantrums at bedtime, easy resettles, hard resettles, won't resettle at all....

Basically we just lived through it. It would be terrible for a few months, then relatively better, then it would go downhill again in a never ending cycle. We tried everything we could think of. I tried talking to him during the day, yelling, rewards charts, CIO, me going in, DH going in, limiting day sleeps, no day sleeps etc

The first night after DD2 was born (3 weeks ago) at just over 4, DH told him that if he stayed in his room and read books until he fell asleep for 3 nights then he could pick any present he wanted. Plain, simple bribery. And it worked! He has gone to bed by himself and slept through most nights since!

I guess that is not helpful, we had to wait 4 years for it to happen. I really, really hope that he starts sleeping for you soon, you deserve some rest xx