Terrible night (long whinge)

[Snowy Love]

DS & I had the worst night's sleep last night. On a good night I feed him to sleep and put him in the cot and at 3 or 4 am he wakes and I bring him to our bed and he attaches & we go back to sleep. The wake up has gotten earlier and for a few nights lately he's fussed about, changing sides a few times before going back to sleep. He sometimes wakes up and re-settles himself before I go to bed so I know he can do that.

Last night he woke just after 12, fussed about, changed sides 4 or 5 times. I'm getting frustrated and trying not to wake DH, but he eventually got up and took DS back to his room & tried to settle him (not sure if by singing, rocking or just lying down with him). I sorted myself out, got a drink and took over again. Eventually got him down at about 2:45, put him in the cot, went back to our bed & he cried. Turned his CD on and lay down on the mattress in his room (not the most comfortable) & he slept in the cot till daylight and he went back to sleep with me on the mattress. DH woke me up when he had a shower (the en suite is between our room & DS's) and he copped an earful from me for not using the other shower!

I'm taking DS to the doctor tomorrow (no appointments today) to see if she can find anything that could cause it. I'm going to put the CD on repeat tonight and see if that helps.

After the whinge the questions: Does BM change to lose the sleepy hormone? Wouldn't think so but paranoia from sleep deprivation makes me ask.

I know others have suggested seeing a chiro for younger bubs with sleep probs - do you think that might help. I said to DH I was thinking of taking him to a chiro & he said what would that achieve?

When I try to settle DS in the cot sleepy but not asleep and it doesn't work (occasionally it does)DH says you need to leave him to cry - that's what Supernanny does. Well, I'm not Supernanny & I don't want DS to think he doesn't matter. Having said that DH never leaves him to cry if I'm not quick enough to pick him up.

ETA: We had a better night last night. He wouldn't feed to sleep so I took him onto our bed & lay down. He faffed about a bit, but eventually fell asleep (without a nipple in the mouth, patting or singing!). I put him back in the cot after half an hour and heard him wake & resettle about 12 and he came into our bed about 3. So better rested today!

[Emma1979]

aaaagh tis hard, and i remember nights were i was up walking the hallways for literally hours with my dd, she has been the worst sleeper, went to sleep school 3 times, blah blah blah, without sounding horrid the first probably 5 months were the worst of my life, it wasn't until around the 6 month mark that i started to relax and realised babies are babies and they often don't sleep well, and there ain't much i can do that i'm not alreay doing.... anyways now at almost 10 months she is pretty good, it is very rare that i am up in the night with her... probably from around 7 months things settled down and she began to sleep better at night... there are the odd occasions were we have a bad night, but generally speaking things are pretty good... but in those hellish first few months i was pretty much up every hour...

i think i totally expected too much of my little darling too soon... just wanted to say that you are not alone, and eventually he will settle overnight and not even need you, eventually!! it does take a while, and i honestly think its just a waiting game, they all get there in the end, and there isn't much you can do in the meantime to speed up the process.... just give him lots of love and repeat in your head 'this phase will pass, this phase will pass'... unfortunately my dd will not allow me to cuddle her, rock her, do anything really to get her to sleep, and having her in my bed with the idea of sleeping is out of the question, so relish the time u have with him while you have it, as they grow so quickly and in the blink of an eye they are grown up.

sorry i've wrambled and gone off topic.