I feel nasty planning to do something that will upset my baby but I think that with BJ away up tp 4 nights a week its important for me to make some space for myself so that I can be calmer and more relaxed.
Hi, please don't feel bad about this! You do need to have the time and space for yourself, and as long as you do it in a caring way, Yasin will be fine. He's not a tiny baby who will feel permanently abandoned when you leave him to go to sleep - he's old enough to understand that you're still around when he can't see you.

George was almost 2 when we decided to sleep train him. We were very sad about it as we had always intended to parent him to sleep for as long as he needed it. But at 9 months pregnant and him still needing me for up to 4 hours during the night, I realised that I could not keep it up once we had a new baby also needing attention through the night. I went to our parenting centre and told them I needed a solution but I would not do control crying. We discussed a couple of techniques and decided to to the calm putting back to bed routine. Normal evening and bedtime routine, say goodnight and leave, wait for him to come out of his bedroom and gently but firmly put him back. I still remember the first night, when he came out 163 times! But in under a week he was self settling. No crying was involved. Ever since then he has gone to sleep without hassles except for very occasionally when he's been sick. We put him down at 7 and he stays in bed alone until 6 (although he looks such a little angel asleep that we usually peek in on our way to bed just to look at him).

Anyway, our method won't necessarily be right for you - but I just wanted to tell you how relieved I was and how wonderful it was to have got to that point. And of course, the children will reap the benefits of you being less stressed and tired.