I probably can't offer any solutions to the problem, but could it be a developmental thing that she's going through at this age, where she's just finding it difficult to get through that 1st sleep cycle and on to the next??? Perhaps the crying is that she's upset that she's woken - my DD has often done this and still does, so I know the type of cry you mean.

Perhaps check the Wonder Weeks book - I don't own a copy, but it is going to be my 1st investment for my next pregnancy (if/when that happens...). Maybe just knowing that it has a time limit and she'll get through it will help you both cope???

And perhaps when sleeping on you, its easier for her to transition to the next sleep cycle. Have you thought of playing a heartbeat CD to try to get her through???

My DD has never been a great sleeper, so I'm not really one for good "advice"! But I do know that when sleep "problems" arise they do have a lifespan and tend to work themselves out.

All the best.