I'm in the same boat as you - DS is 14 months and will only feed to sleep. I have no idea whatsoever how I'm going to change this situation. I despair at it a bit sometimes.
Sorry I can't help, I hope you get some good advice here.
DS still feeds to sleep by preference, although he self settles happily at daycare and mostly happily for DP. If I'm here then he prefers to feed to sleep. (He's 28 months btw).
It really does depend on the child.
If you are wanting to help teach your DS to self settle, the No Cry Sleep Solution (E. Pantley) is an excellent resource.
DS1 fed to sleep until I weaned him at 2 yrs 5 mths. We bought a bed for him before he was 2 and I'd lie down with him & feed, then when we weaned I'd lie with him till he was asleep. DH lies down with him now (and often falls asleep himself). I want him to try sitting next to him, then move closer to the door gradually, but he hasn't started that yet.
DS stopped feeding to sleep at bedtime at around 9 months or so, but would still do it very ocasionally if extremely tired until 22 months or so.
For daytime naps I stopped feeding to sleep at around 15 months - just stopped doing it and started cuddling/singing or going for a walk to get him to sleep.
In the past week he has started putting himself to sleep for day naps and is getting closer to doing it at night also. At nearly 2, he is finally ready to do it I guess.
Jazz has ONLY JUST started being able to lay down and fall asleep without beung fed or rocked. During the day she needs a pat to get to sleep, but at night she can now lay on her bed and fall asleep within 15 minutes. The catch is the we need to be in there with her, but its a nice relaxing time.
She started this at about 17 months. To me it seemed like she has started to grow out of it. We still feed to sleep about as often as she falls asleep on her own (not literally since we have to be there but ykwim!) but at least she does fall asleep on her own. She also started sleeping through from 17-18 months.
I really think its something individual, each baby/toddler will do it when they're ready. I hope this helps
I am still doing it with Isabel, although sometimes if she is tired enough I can put her down in her cot and she will drift off to sleep. Although mostly she still needs to be fed or rocked, or both. I am kinda hoping that I won't have to keep doing it for much longer...the feeding is fine, but sometimes the rocking gets very tiring if she is particularly unsettled. Luckily DH is very good at being able to settle her, so he can do it when he is home
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