Pinky Mckay

[krisp]

Hi ladies,

My DH and I are so desperate at the moment with our DD sleep. It's getting worse and worse and I'm now at the point where I'm worried it's going to end our marriage.
I have called Pinky this morning in a last ditch effort to try and get us some help to help our to darling sleep and save our marriage. The sleep depravation is making us crazy and I just don't know what to do.
Has anyone had a private consultation with Pinky? Did it work?
Please don't tell me to buy anymore books - I have I library full of sleep books and nothing works.
I'm at the end of the line and feeling like I'm drowning.

[~Trish~]

Oh you poor thing . Sorry I haven't dealt with Pinky Mckay, I just wanted to pop in and wish you all the best with her. I hope she can help you get through this difficult time .

I went through terrible sleep deprivation when my DS#2 hit 4 months of age, it does TERRIBLE things to you and can definitely make relationships rocky. I hope you find some solutions and relief soon .

[meow]

We had Pinky come to our house to help with lactation when I had low supply. I was probably bordering on PND and was a mess at the time too... she is amazing!! I felt like I could take it all back on and get through it (which we did) after seeing her. I think you've made a great decision to see her- all the best

[krisp]

Thanks Ren. My only concern is that my little girl is an angel during the day, no sleep issues at all, she will have 2 sleeps with no argument. Its overnight that she turns into a beast, can Pinky help us with night waking??

[Smoke Jaguar]

Pinky will help you become aware of what's going on for your DD and 'solutions' will come from there Sleep books are great...for the royalties they generate more than any success stories! Pinky has a far better track record

[Bathsheba]

I've got Pinky's books and I love her philosophies. She makes sense to me more than any other author on children and their needs. She is baby led and this may seem a bit odd to your partner if he is used to what I think of as out-dated modes of helping babies to sleep (controlled crying etc). Rest assured she will be gentle and understanding

[meow]

can Pinky help us with night waking??

I'm sure she can help you feel better and find a solution that works for your family. Most of what she did to help us just put on us track- obviously she doesn't solve the issues while in your home for a couple of hours. She'll ask you the right questions, reassure you and give you a plan. You're in good hands.

[nox]

Kris -- I really feel for you as I am in the exact same situation and I have called Pinky and spoken with her on the phone.

I am not sure how old your bub is? My DS is 11mo and when I called her she basically told I had to suck it and see, in the nicest possible way, of course. I love Pinky and have a heap of her books and have gone to her sleep seminars before. Obviously while I love her, her books and seminar didn't 'solve' our problems.

The reason that she said this to me was that at his age there is little/nothing that will 'fix' this 'problem' unless I do CC (which I am now getting temped to do because as you know, it is VERY stressful!! But I am holding off and happily the wait lists are prohibitive anyway!). Her point is very valid -- he is at an age where it is all about teething and sep anx. Not that this was what I wanted to hear AT ALL. I begged her to come and help me -- after all I will pay her money!!! -- but she said that there is nothing she can do and I should try and survive until he is around 15 mo when things should change of their own accord.

Now I realise that this seems like HELL but I often think of it in my more lucid states (usually about now -- 330-4 on days when my parents are helping me!) and realise that I appreciate this honesty. She offers you feel good encouragement and that is GOLD. But she will not give you a fix if she can't. I won't lie and say I feel great about it. I have a number of bellybelly posts to show otherwise! But I feel good in the way that I am not an evil failure and that this seems normal.

I agree with the post that mentions our expectations. It is hard to overcome and we probably won't ... but be aware that we put pressure on ourselves.

In regards to the relationship issue-- as I have gone through the same (and now out the other side) try to talk when you can adn make that possible and try to NOT talk when you are overtired. I have started taking vitamins and it has helped my energy levels. Be gentle to each other and when you can't, just take a break from one another! Consider that you are both entitled to speak to a 3rd party about how you feel.

Oh good luck! I found Pinky positive and of course your situation is different to mine. Contact her she will be honest.

best to you

xxxx