My ds starts the night in his cot, but ends up in my with me bed at some stage through the night. I find if he sleeps with me all night, he doesnt seem to sleep very well, feeds more than hourly and is grizzly and tired in the mornings. If I have him in his own bed til about 2ish, then bring him in with me when he wakes, he will only have a couple of feeds overnight, and wakes up much happier. He sleeps in his cot during the day. He had a bassinette when he was first born that he would sleep in occasionally, but most slept in my arms in the day, or in my bed, and was with me all night. My dd never slept with me, and life was so much harder with her when she was a baby. Co sleeping is soooo much easier on everyone. If I could go back, I would have dd in with me too, I never got that new baby exhaustion with ds that I had with dd, and I had a husband to help me out back then and no other kids to look after!!!! If Im lucky enough to have more babies, they will all sleep with me.
We tried a few different combos earlier on, but now what works for us is this:
We have our mattress on the floor with our son's cot mattress on the floor next to us. He has day naps on our mattress. He starts night sleeps on his mattress, then when he wakes he comes up onto our mattress.
Re the Sids recommendation> I've done some research and tha actual statistics on baby deaths reveal that co-sleeping is MUCH safer - so I get really angry that sids and kids recommends a cot. They don't actually have any good reason or evidence to show WHY they recommend this. The trouble with stats is that they record co-sleeping in a variety of situations, eg on a couch/beanbag etc, which just isn;t safe. When SAFELY co-sleeping, there are only a handful of SIDS cases at most; and 'accidents' are just as rare.
Basically you make sure that the mattress is firm, baby can't be suffocated by bedding/pillows, or get trapped anywhere. Also you shouldn't co-sleep if your or your partner smoke, are drunk or affected by drugs......
We co-sleep because we like the bonding, it feels natural, we don;t have to get up in the night, and we believe its quite safe to do so.
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