thread: Upset

  1. #1
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    Jan 2015
    new york, ny
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    Upset

    Hi -

    I am new to this, but thought it might help. I just finished my first cycle of IUI and was sure that it had taken, only to get my period this morning. It's just so upsetting....

    My husband and I had been trying naturally for 2 years, and finally decided to try alternatives. I am 40 he is 51.

    I want to stay positive and believe that all will happen in due time, but the tears just come and every month that my period comes, it just seems that all efforts don't work. For the holiday season, I skipped both drinking ( I have wine on occasion) and exercising...to give my body a break and ensure that I was "taking it easy" as the doctor recommends. Only to now find myself depressed, feeling a bit out of shape...and back to the same..

    I had promised myself that at the beginning of the journey, I would not become "obsessed", but how could you not, when you want to start a family so bad, and nothing you do works? I have waited, because I wanted the right person, now he is in my life...and I am ready to be a mother, but the stars don't align.

    I am sure many of you can relate to how I am feeling. I would love to hear your prespective.

    Sad in NY.

  2. #2
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    Nov 2011
    SE Melbourne
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    Re: Upset

    So sorry it hasn't taken. It is really difficult. And you're right it's hard not to be obsessed cause you get so hopeful. The first one is always hard. It took nine IVF cycles for me I get a live baby. She is now six months old. It's definitely worth it. But it is harder the older you get. Join the LTTTC and AC thread there are lots of ladies in there going through assisted conception at the moment. The support is invaluable xo

  3. #3
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    Dec 2007
    Hork-Bajir Valley
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    Re: Upset

    Massive hugs xo

  4. #4
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    Jan 2012
    Central Victoria
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    Re: Upset

    Big hugs xx I know exactly how you feel. It took 8 long years for me to conceive and finally had luck with our 2nd IVF cycle. I now have a son who will be 1 in a couple of weeks. Stick with it, the journey is hard but worth it in the end. As myturn said join the ladies in the LTTTC & AC thread. They are very helpful and are going through the same as you. I found so much comfort in the group when I was TTC. Good luck xx

  5. #5
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    Jan 2015
    new york, ny
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    Re: Upset

    Thank you ladies, your words help and give me hope.

    Today is an emotional day ( hormones! ) and its hard not to cry...but letting it out. I will hold on to the strength of you and many of the women out there, just trying to start their families.

    I know it will happen, I can't control it, I can only control how I feel...

    hugs to all!