First time TTC

Ngala - in regards to what are we doing now, well....as I've said before, we're TTC/TNTC (teehee!) but I've got in the back of my mind when we should so am trying to be artful in initiating at the right times...but making it seem spontaneous to my DH ...ooh I'm a cheeky sausage aren't I??!!!;)

I hope all our "Hard Work" pays off and we all get:bfp: next month!

:crossfingers: and :bluedust: to all!!

Oh thats right charlyfrog! You are TNTC LOL Sorry I forgot about that one! Yes you are very sneaky! I might try the same as well next cycle if TTC this cycle doesn't work.

Well good luck ladies! I hope that this is going to be our month next month. :goodluck:
And :bluedust: all round!

Hi chicks,

I've just joined this website and forum, and we are TTC for our second child as of this month.

I have a good tip for you all and that's every time you try, put a pillow under your bottom and lay there for a while. Nothing comes out! Trust me that's how I have conceived in the past.

I didn't do that this month though, I wanted to see if we needed to help the swimmers or if it would happen naturally. I've done an early test and it was negative, so I will know officially after this weekend, but I'm not too fussed at this stage. Maybe next month I will try the pillow again.

I lost a baby this year (conceived via the pillow also) and that made me a bit anxious to use the pillow again this month as I had a partial molar pregnancy. That's when 2 sperm fertilise one egg. It sends the palcenta into a spin. And needless to say I had 2 surgeries, 2 hemerages, & 1 cyst removed and countless blood tests before being given the all clear. So it's taken us a bit to come this point again.

But I'm glad we waited a while before trying again because I'm really excited about the idea again and very clucky for a little one! And that's saying something as I haven't had any sleep last night as my 2 year old is getting his back molars!

Gotta love that internal need to reproduce!!!!

Welcome Tashie D! :hello:

Good luck TTC your 2nd bub! And I am really sorry to hear about the loss of your baby this year. I hope that everything this time runs smoothly for you!

Thanks for the pillow idea! I was actually going to raise the question of what everyone does after the BD. But I had an thought that it would be best to have a pillow underneath afterwards. I know that I didnt do that last cycle but will defiently try it this time and see what happens. :crossfingers:

Well good luck on your journey and I hope it is a short one. Keep us updated on your progress. Also, join in on the chatter in the TTC Buddies section!

Hi guys,

This month we BD in the morning then the following night (over 24hrs between etc) around O time and we got our BFP! so it worked for us..

All the best..

Hi and welcome Tashi D. Sorry to hear about your loss and wish you all the best this time around. I had heard of the pillow method before and have been told that it does indeed work its just that sometimes i get a bit lazy and forget. I have also heard that you shouldnt get up for about 1/2 hour after BD to make sure that all the swimmers keep swimming in the right direction!
CONGRATULATIONS LEE!!! Well done. All the best, hope you have a happy and health pregnancy! :happyforyou:
Make sure you keep posting and keep us updated. Hopefully all of us will be joining you on your journey real soon.

Aww thanks walkingArt!!
I wish you all the best this month....
xxoo

Congratulations Lee! :confetti: Wishing you a very happy pregnancy!!


Well I defiently lowered my chances of getting a bfp last cycle because I think I got up straight away LOL not this time tho!! I will get DP to get my a book to read to stay elevated and help the lil swimmers along.

Lee - I see that you are from Perth as well, are you south or north of the River? I am North of the river!

I am South.. Nice to also see you are a young mummy-wanna-be as well! I feel we get a few funny looks in regards to starting a fam and being young...do you get that??

Yes I am going to be a young mum! I was going to wait a few more years before trying but DP and I feel that we are ready.

I havent told anyone yet that I am going to be pregnant soon but I am sure I will be getting some funny looks! I remember when my older sis was pregnant a few years back, we were walking through a shopping center and everyone was giving her weird looks! I didnt think it was very nice....

I cant wait to be pregnant! I am going to show off my belly very proudly! heheh the other day I was on the net looking through all the maternity clothes that are available this days :D

best way to encourage a BFP is fall asleep after DTD. I tried everything when trying for Kat. I lay for over an hr with my hips raised by pillow, legs and hips up the wall, everything. Then I fell asleep (was drunk after hens night) and got a BFP! I fell asleep when I fell with Jess too.....go figure!

Ngala and lee, i totally know where you are coming from as far as weird looks and concern from people. DH and i just got married in November and soon after people were telling us, "I hope you plan on waiting some time before the kids come along, enjoy life together cause once the kids are here it all changes!" I felt like telling them to stick their comments! Who are they to tell DH and I what to do with our lives? We thought about it and talked lots together and decided that we want to be a young family. I want to be a young yummy mummy! This way when the kids are old enough and move out we will still be young enough (40's) to enjoy our lives. Had you asked me two years ago if i wanted to have a baby at 22 i would have said Hell No!! But at the moment i cant think of anything better. Doesnt help when DH is soooooooo CLUCKY! I cant wait!!

So true!!! I think exactly the same way..nice to know I'm not the only one that thinks this way!

Sorry if i missed this Lee, but just out of curiosity how long were you TTC brfore BFP?

This pregnancy it was our first cycle after a MC (and D and C)...

I want to be a young family too! To be able to have the energy to keep of with them! DP and I just recently bought our house, before that we had a lil bit of 'fun' but now that we have our home, we are staying quite mellow. All our friends (mostly males) go out on the weekends and blow all their money and wonder at the end of the week where it all went! We are happy to start our family now and we still feel like we can have fun when the kids come!

We have actually been asked when the first baby will be! LOL not by my side of the family, DP's side of the family. They put me on the spot when DP's grandparents came over from NZ for their yearly visit, DP's mum said that hopefully next time they come over to visit there will be another member of the family! It was a bit embarrassing but rather funny as well :)

ooh Katkins!! That excites me!! Fell asleep myself last night......:crossfingers: LOL!!

TashieD - will keep the pillow thing in mind still... that squishy botbot feeling and the mess LOL!!! & always seems to be on my side of the bed too!! LOL!! (sorry if TMI there!!) :cryinglaugh:

Well goodluck Charlyfrog! Just fall asleep and let all the lil swimmers do their job! :D

I know what you mean tho! :cryinglaugh: Gotta hate it when that happens.


Ooohh I cant wait to get home tonight! I have too much time on my hands here at work.

Hello ladies, I'd like to join in on your conversation, if that's ok. I'm one of the oldies on here (35 - ahem!!) and I think the disapproval you're getting is a generational thing. I was 27 when I got pregnant with DD and I was one of the first amongst my friends to do so. Us GenXers were brought up with the idea that you had to go out there and 'establish' yourself and get your 'career' going, then have your children in your thirties. That was what they told us being successful was about. The Gen Ys (that's you guys, by the way) don't seem to have swallowed this, I guess you're lucky enough to see the ways in which the Gen Xers are now doing it tough (ie no such thing as a single career these days, I'm onto my third) and esp with fertility difficulties after age 35, it doesn't necessarily seem like such a great idea any more. Plus the average workplace is so much more family friendly than even 10-15 years ago. So I think it's going to swing back the other way, and we'll see more and more younger women starting their families earlier again, like you. I think there's recently been an increase in the birth rate and they're saying it's because the tail end of the Gen Xers are now in their thirties and finally having babies, while the Gen Ys aren't waiting in the same way.

Go for it, girls!
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TashieD - I am so sorry that I forgot my brain in my last post - all I could think of was the pillow idea (LOL!) How rude!!
It's great to have you in here as well and I'm sorry for all that you went through but am so excited to read how excited you are at having another littl'n!!

Hope your TTC journey is short and oh so sweet!! :crossfingers:

Marydean - yay! My SIL was/is one of those who say to youngies - oh so much time - don't get 'stuck' at home and to her I say :nana: (LOL!) I had DD at 25 and am currently TTC (or as Ngala has picked up, TNTC - LOL!) for no 2 at 27yrs. I love the fact that as DD and future munchkins grow, I will have all this energy still when they are in late teens etc. I too say to the younger girls (can't believe that I am saying that!) GO FOR IT!! Bring those gorgeous bambinos on!! (so we can smell them and snuggle them and eat them all up....in the motherly way of course!! LOL!!)

Welcome Marydean :hello: The more the merrier I say!!

I see where you are coming from with the genXers being told to go out and build yourself a career and then start a family. I was firstly thinking this way a few months ago. I was actually planning to quit the job I am at now, or even go part time and study architecture at TAFE and then once all that is done have a baby.. But now I am thinking that I can have a baby, and also study architecture parttime, or if I'm lucky, find a course that can be done from home! Not sure if there is such a thing but its worth a try in looking for something.

Ngala, LOL That's a very GenY attitude - multitasking and making your lifestyle flexible to fit your goals!! Way to go with finding the flexible study options, it seems to be more and more an option these days, good for ppl who want to work and study at the same time too. TAFE courses in particular seem to be quite flexible, but a few of the Unis are doing good things with distance ed as well.

I too am going to be enrolling for Uni next year, by distance ed through Charles Sturt Uni. However, I'm very aware that life becomes quite chaotic when there's a new little bubba, so will be taking it one unit at a time and we'll see how that goes. I have a dear friend who started uni a semester before she had her first DS and and finally finished a semester before she had her third DS, so yes, it can be done, but it's a lot of hard work!
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Hi girls, :hello: That's so funny about your buys, when my DP and i agreed on a baby i was so excited i wanted to pick out names straight away, DP wouldn't even discuss it. I then started looking at ebay and bidding low prices for things just incase i got them and with some things i did eg baby rocker (brand new) $35 and baby carrier (strap on front of you brand new) $10. Now it's been 5 months and no baby yet they are kind of hard to look at and even lent carrier to a friend going on holidays, so i suggest wait until the BFP then have a ball painting, buying etc. Good luck for next month.:pray:

Hi again:hello: , hope it's ok if i join didn't realise how many pages your convo had gone for spoke about a page one convo previous thread :doh: . To the pillow talk and when to bd how often etc. A friend of mine has a 3 month old girl, she had irregular periods, and instead of doing any OPK or BBT they BD every second day (allows sperm build up), in the morning (apparently DP is less tired well rested) and the pillow for at least 20 mins (be careful if prone to UTI's bad when TTC). It worked quickly for them although had a MC (very early) after having a UTI and taking medication.
Also there is nothing wrong with being young mum i have been ready for kids since i was 20 but due to study, money and travel (didn't happen) and a proposal (LOL still waiting) we held off now we have a house, puppy Bonnie and are very in love it feels so right, So good luck:crossfingers: Jane

Jane - you are more than welcome to join in! Its great hearing other peoples experiences :) Defiently going to wait before buy anything for the bub! Most of the main things, like cot, pram and all that stuff I will be able to get my my sis or DP's sis as they have had boys. Hey! If we have a boy we will get all their clothes too! Sorry to hear about your m/c! I hope that it is a lot better for you this time round.

Marydean - good luck with the uni! Hopefully all goes well with that! Life will become chaotic trying to juggle study and your family. But it will be worth it! I hope that by the time I am 25/26 I would have a baby, thats a couple of years old that will be able to go in to day care a few times a week while I go to TAFE.

Hi All,

Lee - Sorry about your loss. I wish you all the :bluedust: and :stickyvibesboy: in the world! I just realised i sent you all BLUE vibes, never mind, blue or pink as long as it is happy and healthy.

Marydean - Welcome. Thanks for all your GenX and GenY info. Very interesting and very true :p

DH and i have already bought a few BONDS baby outfits, (they are so sute we couldnt resist and with 25% off how could we say no) DH is so adamant he wants a girl that im scared of the thought that it will be a boy. I know he will love it and be happy no matter what but he wants a girl so badly i hope he gets his wish! He has even picked her name. All we need now is :fertilise:

Is anyone else's partner/husband this excited? DH will even rub my belly in bed sometimes and talk to it and tell it to hurry up and grow... So so cute!

I just went back through the posts and realised i forgot to say :hello: JaneO Wish you all the best!

Oh that IS cute WalkingArt :D I wish my DP did that but he, I guess, doesnt show is emotions very much!! And it is only the second cycle TTC, so we havent been at it very long for him to start getting anxious!

DP wants to have a boy first - as most men do! He thinks that it runs in his family so he hopes its going to be a boy! I dont mind either way as long as I get to bring a baby in to the world. Hey, theres a slight chance I could have twins!

I havent bought anything yet but it is a good idea to get stuff when it is on special! I have thought of names already!! I live Aiden for a boy and Alexis for a girl.

So hows everyones day going? Ever one well and truly in to TTC?? My day is soo boring and going sooo slowly! Cant wait to go home tonight and TTC - AF has left so I'm ready to start!

Hello, I'm so not a first time TTCer (!!!) but I've just been loving this thread cos it's all so exciting(!!!!)

DH is rapt we're going for another, I think he didn't want to pressure me for #2 (cos like he says, it's me who does all the hard work) but now we've decided, he's ten times more excited than first time round. We're both hoping a boy this time (always thought a pigeon pair would be nice) and yes, I've been indulging in Op Shopping, I have a whole box full of (mostly unisex) little garments that I just haven't been able to resist... at 50c-$2 it's hardly breaking the bank and it keeps me entertained so I don't become a forum addict...!
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Slow day!! Tell me about it :wall: I feel like i have been on these forums alllll day because im bored, and i think it has to do with TTC being on my mind ALL the time!

Haha, you sound like me, as soon as AF was gone i was straight into BD. I know they say to focus mainly around ovualation but i dont care do it from now till we get our BFP or AF! LOL

As for twins, does anyone know which side of the family it has to be on. DH has twin uncles and they say it skips a generation so does that mean there is a possibility it could happen or does it have to be on the females side of the family? DH says he cant think of anything better than twins, as for me :eek: Not for the first time around anyway!

Hi ladies i have had a busy day had girls from work around for lunch (we have school hols off) but secretly couldn't wait for them to leave so i could get back on this site i am loving it..
On the buys it is hard to resist bargains but with so many friends having babies i just say they are for them but then keep the things i Love.:heartbeat:

On names we have always loved Cooper John and when we decided to start trying DP went off the name but now we are back to it i can't think of any other name i woul dlove more although i do like Luka and Lukas. Girls name are hard as DP is convinced we are going to have 3 boys:eek: his cousin has 3 boys and they are beautiful but full on.... I love Lily but his mate has one so we have agreed on it as a middle name, i like Kyah said Ky ah but am worried that people will think it is Kia (as in car).


Twins i think can be either side of the family my mums aunty had 3 sets of twins some didn't survive which makes my cousins and me primed to have them scary.:eek: although i have always said i want a Boy twin boy girl and a little girl last.
Forgot to add about excited DP he will rub my tummy and say he can't wait to have a little Andrew in there the more it goes on the more excited he is getting he is looking at other babies and asking questions about stuff i think it has mainly been since our close friends announced they were expecting and know his Brother and SIL are expected in May so kind of glad they won't be at same time or a month apart i want attention on me they are having second child they have a beautiful 17 month old girl Poppy....


Hope you are having a great day.
Jane

HAHA marydean 50c-$2 is a bargain! Its good to have you on here because you are able to give us advise from your first time TTC!

WalkingArt - I've been on these forums all day as well. My head is overloaded with information! What cycle day are you at now? i want to start right away! I dont feel like waiting around until ovulation and because this is my first month temping I am afraid that I might miss ovulation! Better to be safe than sorry i say!

i THINK but dont quote me on this, that twins comes from the females side of the family and that it skips a generation. My mum was a twin, but unfortunately her twin brother passed away at only a few weeks old. So there isonly me and my sis in the family, so I could be having the twins! I'd like to have twins - a boy and a girl. I say this because I only want 2 kids at the moment and I'd be able to have them in one go! But it would be so much hard work....

Janeo - LOL thats funny you secretly wanting the girls to leave so you can get on here! I feel like that when I have someone at work talking to me.. I get real annoyed when they just hang around and talk to me for ages!

Kyah is nice and I said it as Ky ah too! Girls names are real hard I think. I am set on Aiden for a boy and not too sure on the girl. I like the name Kayla but I think DP knows somone that has a girl called that. I went through a whole pile of girls names and he said no we cant have that because....

ooohh I want my DP to start rubbing my tummy! Maybe that will help conceive?!

Sorry about the long post but I am Oh So Bored!!

I write big posts too talking is my thing... I like Kayla too... I have the problem with names as i work in childcare and if you have had a trouble child you don't like the name or if you have a child you really connect with then you love the name... My DP is the name no can't have that because... i really like Lukas but no because a footballer from my team has it for a last night (arse), Mason no because his parents next door neighbour surname is Mason and he doesnt like him, He agreed on Tyler but then remembered that one of the guys at our footy club has a Tyler. Anyway everyone says that when you fall pregnant it could all change plus i also believe in meeting the child before naming i have had a couple of friends say they had a couple of names picked out but until they saw the baby they couldn't decide and one said she really liked the other name and DH liked Molly but when she saw her she said no defiantely a Molly.. Have fun being bored at work...

Jane

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hehehe you girls are funny!! I think it's easy to get caught up and obsessive with TTC and BB isn't it!! Bring on these babies I say!

Thanks for the sticky vibes and baby dust WalkingArt! Must admit, that at the moment I am feeling a bit overwhelmed at the thought that this pregnancy may possibly end in MC again and not a healthly little bub..must try and be positive....

Veronica I agree, i think twins do come from the maternal side..

Jane, I thought that was funny that you were wanting the girls you had over to leave! Because I must admit, I find sneaking off to the computer all the time (to avoid DH saying I am addicted to this when I am surely not! ;)

hope everyone is feeling good and ready for their big month...

Hey girls!

Oh you make me feel soooo normal....so it's not just me looking at buying stuff (have already collected new toys & books for bubs#2....still TTC#2 as well! LOL!) and it's not just me thinking of names and it's not just me jumping on the forum every single chance I get!!!! LOL!!!! And it's not just me hanging for the next BD session!!! :cryinglaugh:

Is anyone due to test qround Oct 14/15th?? Now that my cycle is up to 32 days this is my 'due' weekend.....so am fast heading into the TWW-blahblahblah!! - so currently BD like mad......DH is looking tired...... LOL!!!

You do have a point there Jane with not really naming the baby until you see it. The name you want could not match the bub and then you'll be stuck! Hey, I was meant to be called Martin because mum thought I was going to be a boy!! Geez, she must have gotten a shock when I came out :P

Lee - things must be pretty overwhelming for you at the moment but you have go to stay positive! Everything should be fine.. I am sending you lots and lots of :stickyvibesgirl: and :bluedust: :hug:

PHEW! I am not the only one! I feel really addicted to this forum.. I am pretty much on here all day at work (I close it sometimes to try and find some work but find it open again 30 mins later! LOL), I get back on here when I get back from the gym and I also have a sneak peak on here at 7am when I put in my data on to FF.. I do really think I have an addition. DP thinks I do!

Charlyfrog - well according to FF I am due for my next visit from AF on 8th of Oct. So I'll be testing before you!! So Excited! Cant wait to get home and get started!!


Geez.. moods are all over the place today! I am really excited now and only 30 mins ago I was REALLY angry. I am not normally like this...

I'm around 23rd but with irregular AF who really knows lots of money spent on OPK well a friend gave me some cos she didn't need to fell easy with DS and is due any minute with No2 making them 17mths apart...:eek: So will be madly BD next week DP can't wait... Thinks we should practice thinks it will make perfect but going to wait until sunday then start BD and doing OPK just to make sure..
I just looked at the clock and have been on here or at fertility friend for 2 hrs goes so fast. This site has been the best thing i have some across all you guys are amazing...
Buying things is insane but so hard to resist DP just says your hopeless.. I did family day care for 2 years and collected heaps of toys(2boxes) and books(4boxes full) and then claimed on tax so have everything need in way of toys well neally everything. This site has also kept me away from ebay and i don't spend money we need for the future LOL.
:goodluck: with BD and lots of :bluedust: and pinkdust....