Hi Renstar,
All of the above. I lost my first bub. I realised I was so unprepared. I was not healthy at the time and had been sick for sometime.

While TTC#2, I lost weight, got our diets right, took vitamins (only ones suitable for me as I can't take all of them - Blackmores included) and went to the gym. It took almost a year to concieve but I think a lot of that was due to the stress of losing our first. Actually, DS was only concieved when we both totally gave up on it ever happening (actually we were advised by Dr that it was very unlikely to). Also, we both gave up the alcohol!! I accidentally drank too much first time round without knowing and feel really guilty.

I think it is great that you are preparing for TTC. My advice would be to get as healthy as possible and just let it happen. Me and DH don't seem to be able to concieve when we think about it, both times were times when we didn't give it a thought. (Trying to just let it happen again!!)

GOOD LUCK