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[snikkers1]

Hi all,

After years of wanting to start a family and waiting my husband has said he wants to as well, only problem is since we made the decision he rarely wants to have sex anymore.

He always usto want to all the time, now I am finding I am hounding him and he is always saying no... what do I do?

I have told him I do not just want to have sex just because we are trying I genuinely want to make love.

I am just concerned to it will take ages for us to fall if we do not try more often, any ideas from anyone on how I can get my husband to want more sex and not just think about trying for a baby??

[Trevo]

I would work out when your most fertile (secretly though) and deprive him of it a tiny bit leading up to the fertile days so you have a dry spell when your not fertile and chances are even if you make love you wouldn't get pregnant and make the most of it when you are fertile. If he hasn't had it for a week/fortnight/few days he might be more inclined to jump at the opportunity when you know your fertile and instigate a love making session (but he doesn't have to know your fertile) if that makes snese.

My friend has the same problem with her husband. They have being trying for a while and the novelty has worn of so she pays for a low grade porn from Austar. She said it was about $6 and its soft porn so you can't see any full on stuff (which she gets insulted about) but it gets him in the mood everytime. I haven't tried that as I don't like porn but I thought I would try it if need be and she did say it implies sex more then actually viewing it.

Good luck.

[believer]

O Snikkers,

I soooo know how you feel! I actually sometimes feel like I am trying to "sell' myself! It is awfull isn't it? So here are some

I will be watching this thread coz it might have some tips for me too!

[snikkers1]

Thanks Trevo,
Thats probably a good idea!! I just need to start working out the whole when I am fertile, I know the signs to look for and taking temp and charting and everything, I guess when you have just been waiting so long for something, you worry a lot and I worry that I will miss the days I am fertile or wont be able to tell...

I guess I will have to try a few different things, It's frustrating though as before he could not keep his hands off me.. Its like we switched places..

Thanks for the hugs (B), I hope u have some luck to, will see how we go!!!

[KittyK]

My husband is getting the same way. But i'm realising its because I keep mentioning what day of my cycle it is before I tell him we should DTD. I think I'm putting too much pressure on him so im trying not to bring it up as much as possible.

This may be TMI, but I also have a couple of little outfits (nothing weird, just some baby doll dresses, a corsett, little skirt and bra set with sexy stockings, massage lady outfit etc ) that I wear if things start feeling a bit mechanical and I want to do something special. Put one on under your dressing gown or under your pajamas and make it a surprise when you get in bed I guarantee you he will not say no if you are in some sexy lingerie.

Something a little different may help get him in the mood. Just make sure you pull out the big guns when you are fertile for maximum effectiveness

[snikkers1]

Thanks Kitty K,
I have treid the lingerie, which works sometimes, and its not TMI... it is good to be able to get on here and be honest and get some honest replies... It's hard when you have not told anyone that you know that you are trying..
Well good luck I hope that you have success soon
I am going to be pulling out all stops from now on, tried a few over the weekend with some success
Thanks everyone for your advice, will keep posted.