Sorry to hear what you're going through.

I think if you surveyed everybody on BB, most people would say that they didn't feel really 'Ready' to have kids, even when actively TTC. There's always room for more money in the budget, needing more time to finish off renovations, job promotion etc. If we waited til everything was sorted, we'd all be too old to have kids.

Maybe see somebody who is experienced in counselling couples re: fertility/m/c etc to get some support for both of you. It sounds like your partner is frightened about another m.c happening. Understandably. If you don't clear the air re: your desire to try again and him wanting to wait for longer, it's only going to build and make a wedge between you.