ok so my hubby and i have been ttc for about 4 months. i had a positive opk on the 28th april, so we did the deed that night and the night after. this is where it gets horrible. on friday morning about 2am i slept with another man (long story, not planned, first and last time, extremely guilty and regretful) he didnt use a condom but pulled out just after he started ejaculating. i freaked and took the morning after pill at 10pm that night and again at 10am sat morning (have to take 2 pills 12 hours apart). its been 2 weeks and i just discovered yesterday that im pregnant! hoping to hell that its my husbands, i deeply love my husband and this was a horrible mistake that i cant believe happened! with everyones knowledge of ovulation and conception out there could someone plz help me, who do you think the father is? if its not my husbands baby i will be getting a termination. you dont have to like me but just after some help! ive already called myself every name under the sun so nobody else needs to do this!
No one can guess the father.
I think for the sake of your relationship you need to tell your husband what happened. what is a marriage if it is based on lies IMO.
Then have a DNA test if you decide to proceed with the pregnancy.
Seeming you ovulated on the Tuesday, I am thinking it is more likely to be your husbands but you can never be too sure with these things.
Its a big gamble and I think you may need to have a talk about this with him. Does your GP know your circumstances? What if you cant find out the baby's DNA until it is to late? Also how are you going to get your husbands DNA? Or are you going to get the other guy's tested to rule him out?
Sorry you are going through this. Even though you know you made a mistake and regret it 1000 times over, it still must be incredibly stressful.
i cant tell my husband. he would never forgive me, and he would have every right not to but im not going to ruin something great because of one stupid mistake. i think i will just terminate. i have a drs appt on sat, but this has all been going through my head and couldnt wait til then to get it all out.
I think that might be the best decision, then, after you get past it, try again.
I think its probably your DH's as well, but its a risk not worth taking by the sounds of it.
Good luck.
First, DF and I DTD one night and the condom broke. I went into the chemist the next moring for morning after pill (and got grilled, yay) and anyway, took it within about 8 hours of it happening and I ended up Pg. So, the morning after pill isn't always 100% effective.
Personally, and I think I'm going to be in the minority here, I would keep the baby. Regardless of who's it is, it shouldn't have to suffer for a mistake it didn't make.
If you are that against telling your husband, then don't, and this other man should be cut out of your life if this is a mistake that you only intend on making once. At the end of the day people only tell their partners of their cheating to ease their own guilt and nothing good ever comes of it and it ends up hurting the people you truely love.
I really do feel sorry for you, it would be very stressful thing to deal and I think you are truely regretful but it is your mistake and you should have to wear it.
That is my two bobs worth, I'm sorry if I sound blunt but I just thought I would put another angel out there. And remember whatever choice you make will be the right one for you, so don't agonise about your decision after you have made it.
Kate, this sounds horrible - I think you need to talk to your doctor about this. The morning after pill does not end a pregnancy so it could be that you already were pregnant when taking it. It is 85% effective in preventing a pregnancy.
need help - horrible mistake
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