sooo I thought I had made my decision, that I don't want any more babies. Partly because of what I went through last time with the loss of our little one and other reasons factor in as well...
DH and I have been discussing it for the past few days, he says he thinks he wants another one, AND our DS the last couple of days has been asking for a lil brother or sister (he isn't fussed on a boy or girl, he just wants a sibling lol)... then last night DH said, he doesn't want another baby because he thinks ds is now too old to get a good bond happening with a new baby
Well, since that sounded so final, I can't stop thinking that now I want another baby I don't know if its because we have reached a decision of not having one or if its because ds desperately wants a brother or sister... I don't know what to do, it is such a HUGE decision to make... I mean, I have only been in my new job for 6 months, so I won't get parenting leave (i'm only casual), we have bought a house and a new car, would a baby really mess everything up or am I being sillly???
How did you decide to have another or not have another?? did you ever regret your decision? Why did you decide what you did?
I didn't want to leave this life with regrets. I knew I would never regret having a child, and didn't want to take the chance that I wouldn't regret not having another. My family didn't feel complete.
I'm the same as Mel. I knew I would regret NOT having another , but could never regret having a baby. DH didn't really want another but knew I would be unhappy not having another. And he could be convinced to have another, but I couldn't be convinced not to, itms!! Now we are the family I always felt we should be.
I only thought I would have 2 kids. Now I know I want one more, just not for a while. I know this feeling wont go away, I am always thinking about it. I think the age gap wont be a problem, I know plenty of siblings that have a few years age gap and they get on great. It is more personality then age I think anyway. Me and my brother are 15months apart and we don't get on at all.
About work. Even as a casual, if you have been there for 1 year and can show steady work (not just a day here and there) then you are intitled to 1 year maternity leave. Even if it is unpaid then you still have the Government funded mat leave or baby bonus.
thanks for your replies ladies I am still undecided, but I think, like you all say, I think I would regret not having another one. I will have another chat to dh tonight. I'm not worried about not earning money by not working, i'm more worried that I won't have a position to return to iykwim and have to go through the whole process of getting back into the work force when i'm ready.
the more i think about it, (which is all I can think about atm ) the more I think I want another.
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I thought I had made my decision
I don't know if its because we have reached a decision of not having one or if its because ds desperately wants a brother or sister... I don't know what to do, it is such a HUGE decision to make... I mean, I have only been in my new job for 6 months, so I won't get parenting leave (i'm only casual), we have bought a house and a new car, would a baby really mess everything up or am I being sillly???
I am still undecided, but I think, like you all say, I think I would regret not having another one. I will have another chat to dh tonight. I'm not worried about not earning money by not working, i'm more worried that I won't have a position to return to iykwim and have to go through the whole process of getting back into the work force when i'm ready.
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