I thought I had made my decision

[Arimeh]

I didn't want to leave this life with regrets. I knew I would never regret having a child, and didn't want to take the chance that I wouldn't regret not having another. My family didn't feel complete.

I know this is definitely the last though.

[MrsFabuloso]

I'm the same as Mel. I knew I would regret NOT having another , but could never regret having a baby. DH didn't really want another but knew I would be unhappy not having another. And he could be convinced to have another, but I couldn't be convinced not to, itms!! Now we are the family I always felt we should be.

[Kazzo]

I only thought I would have 2 kids. Now I know I want one more, just not for a while. I know this feeling wont go away, I am always thinking about it. I think the age gap wont be a problem, I know plenty of siblings that have a few years age gap and they get on great. It is more personality then age I think anyway. Me and my brother are 15months apart and we don't get on at all.

About work. Even as a casual, if you have been there for 1 year and can show steady work (not just a day here and there) then you are intitled to 1 year maternity leave. Even if it is unpaid then you still have the Government funded mat leave or baby bonus.

Good luck with your dicision.

[sirenz]

thanks for your replies ladies I am still undecided, but I think, like you all say, I think I would regret not having another one. I will have another chat to dh tonight. I'm not worried about not earning money by not working, i'm more worried that I won't have a position to return to iykwim and have to go through the whole process of getting back into the work force when i'm ready.

the more i think about it, (which is all I can think about atm ) the more I think I want another.